Ok guys...really need ur advice on this..my bf isnt so good in bed....?

I never had this problem before...so its been really driving me nuts..and i dont kno how it tell him and ask why...i just feel bad cuz i dont want him to be embarassed. Ok...so here it is....


the four play is all great. And r relationship is great..we have alot of fun 2gether and complimaent each other all the time...we're crazy about each other. But the sex...is bad.


After just like 5-10 mins he goes soft...and doesnt even get off.


Then sometimes i get upset cuz i feel like its me..like hes not attracted to me or sumthin but i dont think thats it....i mean if it was he wouldnt be with me right??..


And he moves really weird..like he just shakes alot..i dunno its hard to explain. Ive been trying to be more dominant and show him and its worked a little bit..like i try to move him the way i like and stuff...


so do i just keep being more dominant and show him how i like it and how it should be w/out saying ne thing or should i say something to him...and if i should..what do u say to someone with that problem..how do u put it? And i want to add we did just start sleeping 2gether so so far its been just a few times...Ok guys...really need ur advice on this..my bf isnt so good in bed....?
Well no matter what it will hurt his feelings or bother him. No guy wants to know that he isn't good in bed. I guess you can be the dominant one in bed, maybe he still nervous about it, was he a virgin when you met him?





Try asking him what he likes in bed, maybe then he will ask you what you like. Maybe if he is enjoying it more he can last longer. Maybe try watching a porn together may help also? Dont know what your into but its an option.





Well never been told I'm bad but have been told I was a bad kisser by an ex and it bothered me. And I thought she was the bad kisser, she said I didnt use my tongue enough and thought she used hers to much in kissing. Oh well, to each there own.





Good luck,Ok guys...really need ur advice on this..my bf isnt so good in bed....?
its an intimate question and no one knows better than you two?





you ahve the answer and best is to ask him or let him know but do it gentlely as its a man's pride too? and if it works..help him to be who you like him to be....and sometimes if it sont work can some compromise be in?





if the talking dont work...you have the right to move on?





hope that helps? have fun...
talk to him about it, and see if he knows whats going on. Or you could ask him what he likes to do in bed, or something like that and then he'll ask you. The best way is to be open about it, don't feel uncomfortable, alot of guys have problems like that.
He may be having some Health issues.... Be open minded. Make sure he is not embarrassed to ask his doctor about it.





He may be getting bored and not even know it. try to change up your positions alot. That may make it worse. Try other things to stimulate him before sex during sex and after sex.
tell him to relax and enjoy it, slow down and feel every move that's happening. if you guys just started give him a chance to learn not just how it makes you feel, but also how you make him feel (while you are doing it)
this sounds like that episode of sex and the city where burger was a great boyfriend but there was no noise during the sex. that's what it reminded me of anyway. but maybe he's just nervous around you still.
He doesent have much experience in this field.Do not tell him that he is bad at doing it but tell him how you like to do it.If you want him to move fast , tell him.Give him sometime its just the beginning.
could be he's nervous or maybe he's not that experienced. nothing wrong with telling him what you like and asking him what he likes be open it should work. and don't compare that's a no no cause no one is the same.
Sounds like he is incredibly nervous about something.. you taking charge being on top and letting him relax into it while you do most of the work might help him out. Give it a shot - what do you have to lose?
he is nervous, make hime feel more loved