I feel like it is time to get married but have no one in my life now because my last girl friend abandoned me.please take this seriously i need your advise.Hi guys i need your best honest advice.I really feel like i should get married but don't?
True, ask God to give somebody you can marry, dont be desperate. Give it time and im sure you will be given.Hi guys i need your best honest advice.I really feel like i should get married but don't?
so what exactly are you asking? Since you don't have a gf anymore who are you gonna marry? youself??
I would pray to God and ask what his will is for me. Your heavenly Father has all your answers,you just have to ask.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Ok guys i need your advice with this one (:?
so last year i reallllllly liked this guy, we flirted alot but i made myself believe that he acted like that around every girl and so he must not like me, so this year we started to hang out and during one of the football games hes like lets ditch this and go to the park. we went to the park with 2 other people and he ended up telling me that he liked me alot last year, and thats when i told him i liked him alot last year too...he got really mad and was like ****** how come u didnt tell me and the whole night he was regretting it
so now i like this kid again ha but im not sure if he likes me back? he liked me last year but is it done for? how can i spark our fling up again?Ok guys i need your advice with this one (:?
Sounds to me like he still likes you. I know thats how i was with me girlfriend, same exact situation we liked eachother before and nothing happened. But when she told me that i acted the same way like omgggg y didnt you tell me. So yeah i say give it a shotOk guys i need your advice with this one (:?
do the same exact things as last year then you will know if he liks you or not
go makeout with him then reevaluate and move one
so now i like this kid again ha but im not sure if he likes me back? he liked me last year but is it done for? how can i spark our fling up again?Ok guys i need your advice with this one (:?
Sounds to me like he still likes you. I know thats how i was with me girlfriend, same exact situation we liked eachother before and nothing happened. But when she told me that i acted the same way like omgggg y didnt you tell me. So yeah i say give it a shotOk guys i need your advice with this one (:?
do the same exact things as last year then you will know if he liks you or not
go makeout with him then reevaluate and move one
GIRLS/GUYS/ i need yout advice on Relationship from your experience?
Last month after being together for 11 mos, my GF broke up w/ me. First 7-8 mos we were extremely in love, etc. Last 2/3 I became clingy/somehwat possessive and wanted all her time. Ultimately she told me she lost attraction for me and broke up. ( I know I was wrong). Last week we decided to work things out and have been hanging out, taking it slow with good results, no fighting. here is the issue, I know she loves sex and so do I. Counting the break up and last few months of our relationship we haven't had sex in 3 months. We kiss, cuddle, etc. Last night we were planning on it, but: she was tired, and then when I kinda pushed her for us to be intimate, she said she doesnt know if she feels attracted to me and doesnt feel that ';umph';. It has nothing to do with looks since I havent changed, but she wants to get back in love with me, or at least try. I dont know what to do. I need/want intimacy between us, otherwise I feel like we are together without sex. how do i get her wanting sexGIRLS/GUYS/ i need yout advice on Relationship from your experience?
give her time and space, if she really wants you and really wants to fall in love with you again let her do it in her own time, yeah you miss the sex but pushing her for it could just push her away, just think if and when it comes about you both get intimate again it will be what you both truly want and should be as good if not better then ever, just be patient, hope this as helped xGIRLS/GUYS/ i need yout advice on Relationship from your experience?
That's how I felt towards my boyfriend. Now we've broken up. After a while when your together so long it does feel like your brother and sisters or best friends. But What a female wants more from her lover is communication. That is a big + . I know I was in the same boat with my boyfriend. But at the same Time I was clingy with him too. Try talking to her a lot about her life and what she likes. Give her space as well though. pressuring her into having sex is probably making her feel that's all you want from her. I like a clingy guy myself, but maybe she doesn't. So Talk more to her get to know her better, even though you do. Try to prove to her that you can much more to her other than a sex partner. Give her space don't be around her 24 hours a day. That's get boring and she will get tired of seeing you. Don't call her a lot either. Let her do the calling as well. Just give her her space. Last but not least. Keep your guard up hard to believe I know but maybe there's someone else there she likes or is interested in. I'm not saying there is but you never know. Those are signs as well like neglecting sex etc. But I think she just grew bored of the same ole stuff.
Again take care and good luck!!!!
Good luck and take care!!!!
Romance her. Do little things to make her fall for you all over again. Send her a sweet e-card. As you leave her house after an evening together, put a card in her postbox telling her what a wonderful person she is.
Oh, the one thing that I find is a sure fire way to make any girl fall in love with you is to let her fall asleep and wake up in your arms. Let that happen just once without even trying to have sex with her.
if you only care about you wanting sex despite girls consent then this AINT a RELATIONSHIP ...if you would have one you would NOT pressure for SEX and respect her wishes and desires too.This girl was absolutely right to give you the runnabout....
Just talk together. It should be fine. Best wishes
give her time and space, if she really wants you and really wants to fall in love with you again let her do it in her own time, yeah you miss the sex but pushing her for it could just push her away, just think if and when it comes about you both get intimate again it will be what you both truly want and should be as good if not better then ever, just be patient, hope this as helped xGIRLS/GUYS/ i need yout advice on Relationship from your experience?
That's how I felt towards my boyfriend. Now we've broken up. After a while when your together so long it does feel like your brother and sisters or best friends. But What a female wants more from her lover is communication. That is a big + . I know I was in the same boat with my boyfriend. But at the same Time I was clingy with him too. Try talking to her a lot about her life and what she likes. Give her space as well though. pressuring her into having sex is probably making her feel that's all you want from her. I like a clingy guy myself, but maybe she doesn't. So Talk more to her get to know her better, even though you do. Try to prove to her that you can much more to her other than a sex partner. Give her space don't be around her 24 hours a day. That's get boring and she will get tired of seeing you. Don't call her a lot either. Let her do the calling as well. Just give her her space. Last but not least. Keep your guard up hard to believe I know but maybe there's someone else there she likes or is interested in. I'm not saying there is but you never know. Those are signs as well like neglecting sex etc. But I think she just grew bored of the same ole stuff.
Again take care and good luck!!!!
Good luck and take care!!!!
Romance her. Do little things to make her fall for you all over again. Send her a sweet e-card. As you leave her house after an evening together, put a card in her postbox telling her what a wonderful person she is.
Oh, the one thing that I find is a sure fire way to make any girl fall in love with you is to let her fall asleep and wake up in your arms. Let that happen just once without even trying to have sex with her.
if you only care about you wanting sex despite girls consent then this AINT a RELATIONSHIP ...if you would have one you would NOT pressure for SEX and respect her wishes and desires too.This girl was absolutely right to give you the runnabout....
Just talk together. It should be fine. Best wishes
Hey guys i need some advice on where someone stands if they are being bullied at work?
My little sister well ok shes 18 but shes still my little sister and in her last job she was badly bullied by the sub-manager and after alot of complaints by other staff members she was let go because of this. Now my sister has moved on and got a new job in a cafe she was so happy there but they have just hired that sub-manager and the lady has hounded and bullied her all day giving her abuse telling her she is useless and kept her behind half an hour. What can she do? Where does she stand? Please give me some help she has learning difficulities life has been so hard for her and she finally was doing really well at work.Hey guys i need some advice on where someone stands if they are being bullied at work?
Why don't you ring the manager and have a quiet word in his/her ear about this sub manager. Tell him that their is employment law to protect people from being bullied and harrassed and that your sister because of her age and previous learning difficulties is trying to build confidence in an adult world but this sub manager is frightening her. Ask if the sub manager has had people management skills or holds any qualifications to be a manager.
Failing that look at the acas website and print off what the terminology is for bullying and give it to the sub manager just state that anymore unfair treatment and you will log a case for a tribunal hearing for discrimination lay it on thick if you have to.
Or, get a group of your friends to go into the cafe and belittle this sub manager in front of people and see how she likes it. Thats what i would do but then I'm known to be a ***** at times lol.Hey guys i need some advice on where someone stands if they are being bullied at work?
most employers have a bullying policy in place...so she should complain to the HR department and talk about what's going on... if she works in a small place then just go to the next supervisor up -
either way she should do something now before it gets worse...
hope it gets sorted out soon
tc
take your complaint to the hr dept at head office try to get statements from previous employees at her last place of work to back your case, if this does not work then give her a glasgow kiss or 2
she needs to keep a diary and also get witnesses-when you have these go straight to the top (ensure you keep copies of everything) x
I would start by putting the managers jaw over the other side of her face
Go higher up the food chain,Tell the boss of the sub manager what has and is happening.
You probably need to talk to your parents if you can. Your sister deserves the same protection as anyone else she just needs a little help making herself heard.
Someone needs to help her keep a diary of the bullying and approach her boss. Good luck
See your point, I was no way trying to be rude about your parents. You could try the CAB for great advice. Also Consider going with your sister and speak to the manager (she has the right to a 'friend') calmly detail the bullying and if possible get a written account from her previous work mates. Your a great big sis x
the sad thing here in the uk.what people dont know is you have no legal rights against bullying in the work place unless you have worked there for over 12 months companies are like schools they dont like to admit there is bullying going on,as it could leave them open to civil action for the first 12 months if the company wont do anything about it the sad two options are put up with it or leave,in the mean time check out the company policy on bullying as your sister has learning difficuties she can appoint you as her appointee,that gives you the right to talk on her behalf in all legal and non legal matters,this is what you do you go to the doctors and she tells the doctor every thing it is then recorded that she is being bullied at work and it is stressing her out then you go to the area manager or someone above the bully and you lodge a formal complaint in writing most company policies are 3 days to resolve the issue you can be at this meeting normaly you would not be allowed to speak but being a appointee you can,you can take a company to a industrial tibunal for race religion or disability,but not bullying in the first 12 m0nths you can get your sister to join a union the best one for her would be, unite,you must write down every incident, get witness statements and they must be prepared to give evidence.as the bully will not admit being a bully im sorry to say its just not that easy to prove bullying in the work place.anything you need to ask email me
Why don't you ring the manager and have a quiet word in his/her ear about this sub manager. Tell him that their is employment law to protect people from being bullied and harrassed and that your sister because of her age and previous learning difficulties is trying to build confidence in an adult world but this sub manager is frightening her. Ask if the sub manager has had people management skills or holds any qualifications to be a manager.
Failing that look at the acas website and print off what the terminology is for bullying and give it to the sub manager just state that anymore unfair treatment and you will log a case for a tribunal hearing for discrimination lay it on thick if you have to.
Or, get a group of your friends to go into the cafe and belittle this sub manager in front of people and see how she likes it. Thats what i would do but then I'm known to be a ***** at times lol.Hey guys i need some advice on where someone stands if they are being bullied at work?
most employers have a bullying policy in place...so she should complain to the HR department and talk about what's going on... if she works in a small place then just go to the next supervisor up -
either way she should do something now before it gets worse...
hope it gets sorted out soon
tc
take your complaint to the hr dept at head office try to get statements from previous employees at her last place of work to back your case, if this does not work then give her a glasgow kiss or 2
she needs to keep a diary and also get witnesses-when you have these go straight to the top (ensure you keep copies of everything) x
I would start by putting the managers jaw over the other side of her face
Go higher up the food chain,Tell the boss of the sub manager what has and is happening.
You probably need to talk to your parents if you can. Your sister deserves the same protection as anyone else she just needs a little help making herself heard.
Someone needs to help her keep a diary of the bullying and approach her boss. Good luck
See your point, I was no way trying to be rude about your parents. You could try the CAB for great advice. Also Consider going with your sister and speak to the manager (she has the right to a 'friend') calmly detail the bullying and if possible get a written account from her previous work mates. Your a great big sis x
the sad thing here in the uk.what people dont know is you have no legal rights against bullying in the work place unless you have worked there for over 12 months companies are like schools they dont like to admit there is bullying going on,as it could leave them open to civil action for the first 12 months if the company wont do anything about it the sad two options are put up with it or leave,in the mean time check out the company policy on bullying as your sister has learning difficuties she can appoint you as her appointee,that gives you the right to talk on her behalf in all legal and non legal matters,this is what you do you go to the doctors and she tells the doctor every thing it is then recorded that she is being bullied at work and it is stressing her out then you go to the area manager or someone above the bully and you lodge a formal complaint in writing most company policies are 3 days to resolve the issue you can be at this meeting normaly you would not be allowed to speak but being a appointee you can,you can take a company to a industrial tibunal for race religion or disability,but not bullying in the first 12 m0nths you can get your sister to join a union the best one for her would be, unite,you must write down every incident, get witness statements and they must be prepared to give evidence.as the bully will not admit being a bully im sorry to say its just not that easy to prove bullying in the work place.anything you need to ask email me
Please,guys,i need an advice.I've married to Singaporean,divorcee,2gether 4 5 yr.We have a child,all is fine.
But still renting house,since we can't get our own.He's HDB executive flat he gave to his wife,in court order stated that the house will transfer to her,only his CPF have to transfer back to him,but she doesn't want to do it.They bought it when the price was high,so she can't make money if she sell it.She bought private property and renting her HDB flat.I'm tired of changing houses,because landlords bringing up the rent each year. He's paing maintainance for their kids,and it's high,we can't save much.I also started work as soon as i got PR,but still my CPF is not that much.We need to pay 20% downpayment, since her flat still under his name,can't do anything.We start to have arguments about it more and more often...I love my husband and i know it's not his fault,but i'm just feel to tired,being a foreigner is not easy to adjust to environment, plus this endless problem made me really depressed.I wish i can go back home,but my husband doesn't speak my language.Please,guys,i need an advice.I've married to Singaporean,divorcee,2gether 4 5 yr.We have a child,all is fine.
seek help from the lawyer that settle his case to get a courts order to get the flat sold or his may be able to take back the flat.Please,guys,i need an advice.I've married to Singaporean,divorcee,2gether 4 5 yr.We have a child,all is fine.
well you want to bail cause of his payemtns too high i suspect? well i am not sure i understand all that words but anyhow you need to stand by him and get moving on and help him with paymetns its not his fault he has to keep it up and therefore he will so its something you knew before hand its not his fualt so help him if you are just tired of him get moving go to your home land and divorce you aren't for him i guess
...I have no clue as to the initials, speak English please??
CPF? HDB? Excuse me.....it IS his fault, he made the babies and divorced her for you and someday he will divorce YOU for some other YOUNG-cutie w/big br---sts WAKE-UP sis!
What is the question?
He doesn't speak your language? still involved in battling the ex wife are you a hood ornament on his caddy? is he your sugar daddy, Is it love or all for money..Cause no money in the world will ever buy happiness.cleansing diet
seek help from the lawyer that settle his case to get a courts order to get the flat sold or his may be able to take back the flat.Please,guys,i need an advice.I've married to Singaporean,divorcee,2gether 4 5 yr.We have a child,all is fine.
well you want to bail cause of his payemtns too high i suspect? well i am not sure i understand all that words but anyhow you need to stand by him and get moving on and help him with paymetns its not his fault he has to keep it up and therefore he will so its something you knew before hand its not his fualt so help him if you are just tired of him get moving go to your home land and divorce you aren't for him i guess
...I have no clue as to the initials, speak English please??
CPF? HDB? Excuse me.....it IS his fault, he made the babies and divorced her for you and someday he will divorce YOU for some other YOUNG-cutie w/big br---sts WAKE-UP sis!
What is the question?
He doesn't speak your language? still involved in battling the ex wife are you a hood ornament on his caddy? is he your sugar daddy, Is it love or all for money..Cause no money in the world will ever buy happiness.
HEY GUYS!!! i need your advice.....girls answer too!!?
ok well im goin to the movies with my new bf this weekend and i really want to be a GREAT kisser for him. i know how to kiss cuz i mean i have kissed guys before, and i mean i know how to do it but i wanna know what else i can do to make him say, DAYUUUM after it lol. no but seriously, what can i do to make him say wooow. like i said, I KNOW HOW TO KISS...its just a matter of what extra things can i do.
thank you soo very muchHEY GUYS!!! i need your advice.....girls answer too!!?
Perhaps he'll like it if your spin your tongue around his. But what would get me is if she would kiss me really gently and with emotion.HEY GUYS!!! i need your advice.....girls answer too!!?
Just kiss him like you will never see him again! Seriously!
Use your tongue, take it deep inside his mouth, and then suck his tongue...And yes suck his upper lips deeply...
yum yum
soft and lightly w/ lots of feeling
thank you soo very muchHEY GUYS!!! i need your advice.....girls answer too!!?
Perhaps he'll like it if your spin your tongue around his. But what would get me is if she would kiss me really gently and with emotion.HEY GUYS!!! i need your advice.....girls answer too!!?
Just kiss him like you will never see him again! Seriously!
Use your tongue, take it deep inside his mouth, and then suck his tongue...And yes suck his upper lips deeply...
yum yum
soft and lightly w/ lots of feeling
Emergency....Guys please i need advice before tomorrow?
So there is this guy that i like, he knows i like him and ever since he found out we've still remained really good friend.
But its almost the last week of school and i was thinking about telling him this tomorrow..... (I've been trying really hard to get over you, but honestly its not working, i get really jealous every time i see you with your girlfriend but i have no choice but to keep my feelings to myself, its summer so maybe i will get over you over the break, i guess my point is i will really miss you ) Do you guuys think i should tell him these or keep it to myself, and if you are a guy how would you feel if a girl told you this? ...plz HELPEmergency....Guys please i need advice before tomorrow?
u should talk to him but dont say that say how u feel. dont ruin it by drowning it out with hopefully stopping. just tell himEmergency....Guys please i need advice before tomorrow?
Personally i like my really good friend and id be really happy if she told me she liked me, but even if i didnt like her, id like to kno that she likes me, and who knos, maybe he'll like you cause u like him, it happens alot.
If he has a girlfriend, this is probably a very bad idea. Telling him could make it awkward for you, him the girlfriend and all your friends together.
well i am not a guy but i wouldn't go with this speech. u gotta show him that u r better than his gf and if he likes u more than her than it is cool but it is a good idea to talk though
But its almost the last week of school and i was thinking about telling him this tomorrow..... (I've been trying really hard to get over you, but honestly its not working, i get really jealous every time i see you with your girlfriend but i have no choice but to keep my feelings to myself, its summer so maybe i will get over you over the break, i guess my point is i will really miss you ) Do you guuys think i should tell him these or keep it to myself, and if you are a guy how would you feel if a girl told you this? ...plz HELPEmergency....Guys please i need advice before tomorrow?
u should talk to him but dont say that say how u feel. dont ruin it by drowning it out with hopefully stopping. just tell himEmergency....Guys please i need advice before tomorrow?
Personally i like my really good friend and id be really happy if she told me she liked me, but even if i didnt like her, id like to kno that she likes me, and who knos, maybe he'll like you cause u like him, it happens alot.
If he has a girlfriend, this is probably a very bad idea. Telling him could make it awkward for you, him the girlfriend and all your friends together.
well i am not a guy but i wouldn't go with this speech. u gotta show him that u r better than his gf and if he likes u more than her than it is cool but it is a good idea to talk though
Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
If you see a girl that looks attractive when you are out in public somewhere, what do you do? I mean since you have never seen her before you don't know what she likes and stuff. So how do you get to know her better and possibly meet her again? Obviously I know you have to talk to her but I don't know what you would say and how you would initiate a conversation.Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
The key is to be spontanious, outgoing, funny, and confident. Just go up to her and start talking with a smile! It's contagious. Plus, you'll seperate yourself from all the other idiots out there who never had the courage to go up and talk to her! Have something planned to talk about (such as if your in a clothing store, ask her opinion on something) and then get talking about other things. If it goes well, say something like, ';Well i have to go, let me get your number real quick so we can continue this conversation sometime'; Get her number and leave. Do this while your in mid conversation so it'll leave her lingering for more :) Good luck man.Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
Well, my advice to you, is look her in the eye once. Than show her absolutely no attention. It drives girls crazy, because they want to chase after something they can't have. When you show her you're not interested, she will eventually come to you. Or you could always just kinda smile at her, and strike conversation just go up to her and be like ';Hey why do you look so familiar?'; and continue on with your conversation.
The key is to be spontanious, outgoing, funny, and confident. Just go up to her and start talking with a smile! It's contagious. Plus, you'll seperate yourself from all the other idiots out there who never had the courage to go up and talk to her! Have something planned to talk about (such as if your in a clothing store, ask her opinion on something) and then get talking about other things. If it goes well, say something like, ';Well i have to go, let me get your number real quick so we can continue this conversation sometime'; Get her number and leave. Do this while your in mid conversation so it'll leave her lingering for more :) Good luck man.Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
Well, my advice to you, is look her in the eye once. Than show her absolutely no attention. It drives girls crazy, because they want to chase after something they can't have. When you show her you're not interested, she will eventually come to you. Or you could always just kinda smile at her, and strike conversation just go up to her and be like ';Hey why do you look so familiar?'; and continue on with your conversation.
Hey guys i need some advice on where someone stands if they are being bullied at work?
My little sister well ok shes 18 but shes still my little sister and in her last job she was badly bullied by the sub-manager and after alot of complaints by other staff members she was let go because of this. Now my sister has moved on and got a new job in a cafe she was so happy there but they have just hired that sub-manager and the lady has hounded and bullied her all day giving her abuse telling her she is useless and kept her behind half an hour. What can she do? Where does she stand? Please give me some help she has learning difficulities life has been so hard for her and she finally was doing really well at work.Hey guys i need some advice on where someone stands if they are being bullied at work?
Why don't you ring the manager and have a quiet word in his/her ear about this sub manager. Tell him that their is employment law to protect people from being bullied and harrassed and that your sister because of her age and previous learning difficulties is trying to build confidence in an adult world but this sub manager is frightening her. Ask if the sub manager has had people management skills or holds any qualifications to be a manager.
Failing that look at the acas website and print off what the terminology is for bullying and give it to the sub manager just state that anymore unfair treatment and you will log a case for a tribunal hearing for discrimination lay it on thick if you have to.
Or, get a group of your friends to go into the cafe and belittle this sub manager in front of people and see how she likes it. Thats what i would do but then I'm known to be a ***** at times lol.Hey guys i need some advice on where someone stands if they are being bullied at work?
most employers have a bullying policy in place...so she should complain to the HR department and talk about what's going on... if she works in a small place then just go to the next supervisor up -
either way she should do something now before it gets worse...
hope it gets sorted out soon
tc
take your complaint to the hr dept at head office try to get statements from previous employees at her last place of work to back your case, if this does not work then give her a glasgow kiss or 2
she needs to keep a diary and also get witnesses-when you have these go straight to the top (ensure you keep copies of everything) x
I would start by putting the managers jaw over the other side of her face
Go higher up the food chain,Tell the boss of the sub manager what has and is happening.
You probably need to talk to your parents if you can. Your sister deserves the same protection as anyone else she just needs a little help making herself heard.
Someone needs to help her keep a diary of the bullying and approach her boss. Good luck
See your point, I was no way trying to be rude about your parents. You could try the CAB for great advice. Also Consider going with your sister and speak to the manager (she has the right to a 'friend') calmly detail the bullying and if possible get a written account from her previous work mates. Your a great big sis x
the sad thing here in the uk.what people dont know is you have no legal rights against bullying in the work place unless you have worked there for over 12 months companies are like schools they dont like to admit there is bullying going on,as it could leave them open to civil action for the first 12 months if the company wont do anything about it the sad two options are put up with it or leave,in the mean time check out the company policy on bullying as your sister has learning difficuties she can appoint you as her appointee,that gives you the right to talk on her behalf in all legal and non legal matters,this is what you do you go to the doctors and she tells the doctor every thing it is then recorded that she is being bullied at work and it is stressing her out then you go to the area manager or someone above the bully and you lodge a formal complaint in writing most company policies are 3 days to resolve the issue you can be at this meeting normaly you would not be allowed to speak but being a appointee you can,you can take a company to a industrial tibunal for race religion or disability,but not bullying in the first 12 m0nths you can get your sister to join a union the best one for her would be, unite,you must write down every incident, get witness statements and they must be prepared to give evidence.as the bully will not admit being a bully im sorry to say its just not that easy to prove bullying in the work place.anything you need to ask email me
Why don't you ring the manager and have a quiet word in his/her ear about this sub manager. Tell him that their is employment law to protect people from being bullied and harrassed and that your sister because of her age and previous learning difficulties is trying to build confidence in an adult world but this sub manager is frightening her. Ask if the sub manager has had people management skills or holds any qualifications to be a manager.
Failing that look at the acas website and print off what the terminology is for bullying and give it to the sub manager just state that anymore unfair treatment and you will log a case for a tribunal hearing for discrimination lay it on thick if you have to.
Or, get a group of your friends to go into the cafe and belittle this sub manager in front of people and see how she likes it. Thats what i would do but then I'm known to be a ***** at times lol.Hey guys i need some advice on where someone stands if they are being bullied at work?
most employers have a bullying policy in place...so she should complain to the HR department and talk about what's going on... if she works in a small place then just go to the next supervisor up -
either way she should do something now before it gets worse...
hope it gets sorted out soon
tc
take your complaint to the hr dept at head office try to get statements from previous employees at her last place of work to back your case, if this does not work then give her a glasgow kiss or 2
she needs to keep a diary and also get witnesses-when you have these go straight to the top (ensure you keep copies of everything) x
I would start by putting the managers jaw over the other side of her face
Go higher up the food chain,Tell the boss of the sub manager what has and is happening.
You probably need to talk to your parents if you can. Your sister deserves the same protection as anyone else she just needs a little help making herself heard.
Someone needs to help her keep a diary of the bullying and approach her boss. Good luck
See your point, I was no way trying to be rude about your parents. You could try the CAB for great advice. Also Consider going with your sister and speak to the manager (she has the right to a 'friend') calmly detail the bullying and if possible get a written account from her previous work mates. Your a great big sis x
the sad thing here in the uk.what people dont know is you have no legal rights against bullying in the work place unless you have worked there for over 12 months companies are like schools they dont like to admit there is bullying going on,as it could leave them open to civil action for the first 12 months if the company wont do anything about it the sad two options are put up with it or leave,in the mean time check out the company policy on bullying as your sister has learning difficuties she can appoint you as her appointee,that gives you the right to talk on her behalf in all legal and non legal matters,this is what you do you go to the doctors and she tells the doctor every thing it is then recorded that she is being bullied at work and it is stressing her out then you go to the area manager or someone above the bully and you lodge a formal complaint in writing most company policies are 3 days to resolve the issue you can be at this meeting normaly you would not be allowed to speak but being a appointee you can,you can take a company to a industrial tibunal for race religion or disability,but not bullying in the first 12 m0nths you can get your sister to join a union the best one for her would be, unite,you must write down every incident, get witness statements and they must be prepared to give evidence.as the bully will not admit being a bully im sorry to say its just not that easy to prove bullying in the work place.anything you need to ask email me
Do gay guys get mad when a straight guy ask for fashion advice?
be for you get all bent out of shape . gay guys are still guys and guys are more straightforward and honest then woman will ever be.
I need a straightforward answer not some sugar coated answer.
well i want to get back in the dating game 25 and have not had a long term GF b4 and i want a GF .
so i am give my self a make over of sort. I like to shop i am bad .lol
I am looking for a new hair Style . i have no clue what will look good.
i post pic in a min if that ok with you.
btw i am going to post this in the single / dating section trying to get all the advice i can get.Do gay guys get mad when a straight guy ask for fashion advice?
1. Shave your face for a clean look
2. You will be better off with a shorter cut, the last two photos showed a more bristled style which suits you better.
3. Make sure you have a nice pair of dark denim jeans with a straight leg and no embellishments on the pockets, this gives you a slimline look and if you team it with a close fitting black t-shirt you'll be great. If you're broad shouldered, get a shirt with a v-neck.
4. Brown leather lace ups (stylish only) with a thinned toe (as in pointy at the end).
But that's my opinion.
P.S You have very nice blue eyes.Do gay guys get mad when a straight guy ask for fashion advice?
You should shave all that facial hair straight off. Keep your sideburns as short as possible (I hate sideburns). Grow you hair out a bit, spike it up a bit.
I like guys that dress like this
http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/photos/u鈥?/a>
You might think the Jonas Brothers are lame but I love the way they dress. It's so hot.
http://www.joejonasphotos.com/albums/lon鈥?/a>
I don't get mad. I see it as a compliment, so, bring it on, sweetcheeks! ^_^ (But I would shave the beard if you haven't already. Facial hair adds too many years to your appearence.) You would look cute if you had straighter hair, but, what you have isn't bad. Try spiking it, or gelling it forward and spiking it at the front. That would look very nice. Just my opinion! :)
get more texture added into the top part of your hair. let it grow out some. keep the sides short but grow out the rest to add more dimension and movement. I think it would look better on your face as well.
I never get that problem, i dress worse than most of the guys i know, (i don't really care about looking great all the time)
i would say
definitely go for a clean shave and grow your hair longer to about the bottom of your forehead
Bring it!
If you are open to constructive criticism...
Pic 1; unruly sideburns... keep them neatly trimmed.
Pic 2; same about the sideburns, but you have beautiful blue eyes.
Pic 3; honest answer, this is a very unflattering pic... stay away from too much facial hair.
Pic 4; you look good with a short haircut and a closely shaved beard.
Pic 5; same advice as pic 4. This is the best of the 5, and I would ask a guy who looked like this out for a date.
Keep your haircut short, as in pics 4 %26amp; 5 (where you resemble the actor Ryan Gosling). Keep the sideburns short and neatly trimmed. Facial hair works for you, as long as you keep it very short as in Pics 4 %26amp; 5; stay away from the long facial hair as in Pic 3. Wearing blue shirts will also get other notice your beautiful eyes.
I need a straightforward answer not some sugar coated answer.
well i want to get back in the dating game 25 and have not had a long term GF b4 and i want a GF .
so i am give my self a make over of sort. I like to shop i am bad .lol
I am looking for a new hair Style . i have no clue what will look good.
i post pic in a min if that ok with you.
btw i am going to post this in the single / dating section trying to get all the advice i can get.Do gay guys get mad when a straight guy ask for fashion advice?
1. Shave your face for a clean look
2. You will be better off with a shorter cut, the last two photos showed a more bristled style which suits you better.
3. Make sure you have a nice pair of dark denim jeans with a straight leg and no embellishments on the pockets, this gives you a slimline look and if you team it with a close fitting black t-shirt you'll be great. If you're broad shouldered, get a shirt with a v-neck.
4. Brown leather lace ups (stylish only) with a thinned toe (as in pointy at the end).
But that's my opinion.
P.S You have very nice blue eyes.Do gay guys get mad when a straight guy ask for fashion advice?
You should shave all that facial hair straight off. Keep your sideburns as short as possible (I hate sideburns). Grow you hair out a bit, spike it up a bit.
I like guys that dress like this
http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/photos/u鈥?/a>
You might think the Jonas Brothers are lame but I love the way they dress. It's so hot.
http://www.joejonasphotos.com/albums/lon鈥?/a>
I don't get mad. I see it as a compliment, so, bring it on, sweetcheeks! ^_^ (But I would shave the beard if you haven't already. Facial hair adds too many years to your appearence.) You would look cute if you had straighter hair, but, what you have isn't bad. Try spiking it, or gelling it forward and spiking it at the front. That would look very nice. Just my opinion! :)
get more texture added into the top part of your hair. let it grow out some. keep the sides short but grow out the rest to add more dimension and movement. I think it would look better on your face as well.
I never get that problem, i dress worse than most of the guys i know, (i don't really care about looking great all the time)
i would say
definitely go for a clean shave and grow your hair longer to about the bottom of your forehead
Bring it!
If you are open to constructive criticism...
Pic 1; unruly sideburns... keep them neatly trimmed.
Pic 2; same about the sideburns, but you have beautiful blue eyes.
Pic 3; honest answer, this is a very unflattering pic... stay away from too much facial hair.
Pic 4; you look good with a short haircut and a closely shaved beard.
Pic 5; same advice as pic 4. This is the best of the 5, and I would ask a guy who looked like this out for a date.
Keep your haircut short, as in pics 4 %26amp; 5 (where you resemble the actor Ryan Gosling). Keep the sideburns short and neatly trimmed. Facial hair works for you, as long as you keep it very short as in Pics 4 %26amp; 5; stay away from the long facial hair as in Pic 3. Wearing blue shirts will also get other notice your beautiful eyes.
I Need Advice About Sex?! Please Guys And Girls Opinions?
What is a girl suppose to do when the man is on top? you know instead of just laying there while he is doing all the work?
I have never had any complaints in that department until now. He says I could put a little more into it.
So what do you men personally like? or what are some good tips from you ladies?
By the way i'm 20. Please no rude commentsI Need Advice About Sex?! Please Guys And Girls Opinions?
I totally understand what you're going through!
When a guy is on top, encourage him by groaning, kissing him, and you can regulate his speed by talking to him. [not necessarily talking but demanding/sexy talk].
Personally, I found that when my guy is on top i love rubbing his chest and pulling him down to kiss him or nibble his ears. Even tightening your muscles inside tighten enough to make it more pleasurable for him. You can also try moving your legs in different positions: straddling him while he is on top, spreading your legs completely out, hold your legs in closer towards your chest.
Hope this helps!I Need Advice About Sex?! Please Guys And Girls Opinions?
hmm.. well instead of laying there doing nothing lolee. Maybe put your legs arond him ( lower back -ish ) you also, could get more pleasure out of it, cause it goes deeper, and kiss him in the neck or something while he`s F***ing you. :) guys love to be kissed too, squeeze their arms and kiss them., it might make them feel muscular :) guys like their pride :P . Also, you can kiss at the same time ( some people find it hard ) . Some guys think its a turn on. or just grab on his hair. if he likes it rough. :P ! try biting his shoulders ( gently, not to hard ) just tease around. Carful if you try to bite lips ( which is a turn on ) cause, my boyfriend was doing this to me once. and lolee. and he bit off a peice of my lip, so just bite gently, :P dont get too carried away. dont forget to ask your partner if he is liking whatever it is you are doing,
just stoke his hair, hold him close, pull him into you further when you feel the time is right. Reach down and ';take care of business'; yourself, and then grab one of his hands and try to get him to do it. You'll have to show him because until a guy knows EXACTLY WHERE, AND WHAT the clit is, it is going to be a mystery to him. It's like show and tell, but with more 'show' and less 'tell'.
Also - when he is on top, and his is hitting the RIGHT SPOTS, MOAN. Moan your azz off to let him know... May just a litte at 1st... Just a couple of whimpers, and then if he keeps doing the right thing, inch it up a little until you think you can get him to make you climax. if not, then switch positions, and show him what I talked about earlier. Also - it's it's a really intimate moment and he's on top, be sure to look him in the eyes. Keep eye contact and control your vocal feeback as he pleases you. That's my advice - NOW RUN WITH IT! -john in Iowa
I make a load of noises to really turn him on, touch his back, hold his arms (moaning and gripping his arms when it feels really good is apparently a massive turn on for my guy!)...Rub my boobs.... I've been worried at times that I'm not doing enough and he'll think I'm being lazy and making him do all the work or something (I prefer him being on top most of the time as it feels better) but truthfully there's not a lot really you can do from that position!!
Have you tried asking him what he would like you to do?
well u getting all the advice under the sun LOL
grab butt
moan
talk dirty
wrap ur legs like a pretzel and lift urself up to meet his thrusts
scratch back
and more and more
but if u are doing these things and he is still not happy with it then there is only one solution for u..and that is to ask HIM and if he gets irritated by this question then its his own fault..he is not showing u what exactly he wants (some men actually do like a finger up the butt LOL but how does one know that if he doesn't say so or if y'all don't talk about it?) every person has there preference
When you're really in the mood, you won't even need telling. Wrap your legs around him, let your hands and your mouth wander, writhe, run your nails down his back, breathe on his skin, etc. I've heard guys say they like girls to lift their hips to ';meet in the middle';. But if he was so great, you wouldn't have to force it!
Dude answering here-
If the guy says he wants more from you out of it, I've personally never had a problem with girl moaning in my ear....personal fav there! But I've never heard a guy complain about sex...He's weird. But there is not much to do when on bottom. It's the same scenario vice versa! Try and pull him closer, that may work?
When my husband and I are in the action, he loves being on top. I always just lift one leg up higher and put it over my hips, or I push up with my pelvis.
I try to make it very sensual between the two of us. I grasp his back, and run my fingers through his hair, kiss his neck. Grab his hips and booty.
Ha, we both like to be very playful. Maybe that's what he is looking for.
Good luck, hope it helped.
I find moving your hands all over his back and chest to be a turn on, Sometimes dig your nails in, thats kinda sexy too
Kissing his neck and ear is fun
and moaning
But none of this works if you stress over it. Then it just becomes mechanical. Take deep breaths as you do this and feel it dont just do it.
Kiss him rub his chest and back. Arms and fingers.Look into his eyes. Grab him and be verbal, Moan tell him how good it feels. You want to feel him inside you. Is just sex or are you connecting emotionally? Are you orgasiming? Maybe try more foreplay before moving to intercourse. Makeout for a twenty minutes. Create more of an emotional bond before go into intercourse.
Ask him!
Seriously, guys like a million different things. If you've had no complaints before, then you can't be doing anything that wrong.
Talk to him about what he means, and maybe it's something you would or wouldn't be okay with.
Grab his bum %26amp; urge him to grind harder. Push your pelvis into his with rhythm.
I love when my lady grabs my neck and shoulders...rubbing is guud.
Talk a little noise, not too dirty. Encouraging such as, ';Im so wet for you,'; ';I want to cream on your ____.';
For some reason, American girls aren't as passionate in sex. So become waay more passionate.
hmm, some guys like it when a girl can be in control. it makes sense if a guy gets a little bored. i mean its reallly tirrringg :)
so just enjoy it on the bottom for a little while, then get on tooopp!
;)
hope i helllppeedd,
mindd answering minee?
Get really into it. Shove into him. spread your cheeks. Kiss him. dig your nails into his back. breathe hard into his ear. let him do you in the butt. change positions...
Don't talk.
Never talk.
Just grab him and pull him constantly.
And by the way, improv.
Do what you think is best, but don't plan ahead.
Just let your body take over your mind.
Being a guy I say u could put legs up or spread em.
You could kiss him scratch his back..grasp him close
Spread ur legs so he can get deeper which might make you moan or do some of the mentioned things....y'all could try karma sutra(I think that's rights)
touch his back, or head, squeeze his butt, moan ALOT, or surprise him, by next time, suggest to be on top, or give him oral.
take controls sometimes leave him to be the one laying down, maybe your not satisfied with him in bed have you considered that
grab his buttock, scratch his back, bite his shoulder, lick his earlobe, suck his neck..
do a little moaning and grinding into him when he comes closer to you say his name makes men go crazy when they think ur really into it
grip his back, gently dig your nails into his back moan, maybe grab his butt lol run your fingers through his hair
Just moan and talk dirty.
Aahhhh a future mainstay in the STD ward.
Kiss him when he does it and place his hands where you want it to be
Moan more
move with him. and of course don't forget to smile and be happy :)
just kiss him
ask him does he expect you to read his mind on putting more into it
O MY GOD...MOAN!!!!!! just moan. its attractive as hell
u can kiss him...
touch his body...
idk...
be sexy
lolcleansing diet
I have never had any complaints in that department until now. He says I could put a little more into it.
So what do you men personally like? or what are some good tips from you ladies?
By the way i'm 20. Please no rude commentsI Need Advice About Sex?! Please Guys And Girls Opinions?
I totally understand what you're going through!
When a guy is on top, encourage him by groaning, kissing him, and you can regulate his speed by talking to him. [not necessarily talking but demanding/sexy talk].
Personally, I found that when my guy is on top i love rubbing his chest and pulling him down to kiss him or nibble his ears. Even tightening your muscles inside tighten enough to make it more pleasurable for him. You can also try moving your legs in different positions: straddling him while he is on top, spreading your legs completely out, hold your legs in closer towards your chest.
Hope this helps!I Need Advice About Sex?! Please Guys And Girls Opinions?
hmm.. well instead of laying there doing nothing lolee. Maybe put your legs arond him ( lower back -ish ) you also, could get more pleasure out of it, cause it goes deeper, and kiss him in the neck or something while he`s F***ing you. :) guys love to be kissed too, squeeze their arms and kiss them., it might make them feel muscular :) guys like their pride :P . Also, you can kiss at the same time ( some people find it hard ) . Some guys think its a turn on. or just grab on his hair. if he likes it rough. :P ! try biting his shoulders ( gently, not to hard ) just tease around. Carful if you try to bite lips ( which is a turn on ) cause, my boyfriend was doing this to me once. and lolee. and he bit off a peice of my lip, so just bite gently, :P dont get too carried away. dont forget to ask your partner if he is liking whatever it is you are doing,
just stoke his hair, hold him close, pull him into you further when you feel the time is right. Reach down and ';take care of business'; yourself, and then grab one of his hands and try to get him to do it. You'll have to show him because until a guy knows EXACTLY WHERE, AND WHAT the clit is, it is going to be a mystery to him. It's like show and tell, but with more 'show' and less 'tell'.
Also - when he is on top, and his is hitting the RIGHT SPOTS, MOAN. Moan your azz off to let him know... May just a litte at 1st... Just a couple of whimpers, and then if he keeps doing the right thing, inch it up a little until you think you can get him to make you climax. if not, then switch positions, and show him what I talked about earlier. Also - it's it's a really intimate moment and he's on top, be sure to look him in the eyes. Keep eye contact and control your vocal feeback as he pleases you. That's my advice - NOW RUN WITH IT! -john in Iowa
I make a load of noises to really turn him on, touch his back, hold his arms (moaning and gripping his arms when it feels really good is apparently a massive turn on for my guy!)...Rub my boobs.... I've been worried at times that I'm not doing enough and he'll think I'm being lazy and making him do all the work or something (I prefer him being on top most of the time as it feels better) but truthfully there's not a lot really you can do from that position!!
Have you tried asking him what he would like you to do?
well u getting all the advice under the sun LOL
grab butt
moan
talk dirty
wrap ur legs like a pretzel and lift urself up to meet his thrusts
scratch back
and more and more
but if u are doing these things and he is still not happy with it then there is only one solution for u..and that is to ask HIM and if he gets irritated by this question then its his own fault..he is not showing u what exactly he wants (some men actually do like a finger up the butt LOL but how does one know that if he doesn't say so or if y'all don't talk about it?) every person has there preference
When you're really in the mood, you won't even need telling. Wrap your legs around him, let your hands and your mouth wander, writhe, run your nails down his back, breathe on his skin, etc. I've heard guys say they like girls to lift their hips to ';meet in the middle';. But if he was so great, you wouldn't have to force it!
Dude answering here-
If the guy says he wants more from you out of it, I've personally never had a problem with girl moaning in my ear....personal fav there! But I've never heard a guy complain about sex...He's weird. But there is not much to do when on bottom. It's the same scenario vice versa! Try and pull him closer, that may work?
When my husband and I are in the action, he loves being on top. I always just lift one leg up higher and put it over my hips, or I push up with my pelvis.
I try to make it very sensual between the two of us. I grasp his back, and run my fingers through his hair, kiss his neck. Grab his hips and booty.
Ha, we both like to be very playful. Maybe that's what he is looking for.
Good luck, hope it helped.
I find moving your hands all over his back and chest to be a turn on, Sometimes dig your nails in, thats kinda sexy too
Kissing his neck and ear is fun
and moaning
But none of this works if you stress over it. Then it just becomes mechanical. Take deep breaths as you do this and feel it dont just do it.
Kiss him rub his chest and back. Arms and fingers.Look into his eyes. Grab him and be verbal, Moan tell him how good it feels. You want to feel him inside you. Is just sex or are you connecting emotionally? Are you orgasiming? Maybe try more foreplay before moving to intercourse. Makeout for a twenty minutes. Create more of an emotional bond before go into intercourse.
Ask him!
Seriously, guys like a million different things. If you've had no complaints before, then you can't be doing anything that wrong.
Talk to him about what he means, and maybe it's something you would or wouldn't be okay with.
Grab his bum %26amp; urge him to grind harder. Push your pelvis into his with rhythm.
I love when my lady grabs my neck and shoulders...rubbing is guud.
Talk a little noise, not too dirty. Encouraging such as, ';Im so wet for you,'; ';I want to cream on your ____.';
For some reason, American girls aren't as passionate in sex. So become waay more passionate.
hmm, some guys like it when a girl can be in control. it makes sense if a guy gets a little bored. i mean its reallly tirrringg :)
so just enjoy it on the bottom for a little while, then get on tooopp!
;)
hope i helllppeedd,
mindd answering minee?
Get really into it. Shove into him. spread your cheeks. Kiss him. dig your nails into his back. breathe hard into his ear. let him do you in the butt. change positions...
Don't talk.
Never talk.
Just grab him and pull him constantly.
And by the way, improv.
Do what you think is best, but don't plan ahead.
Just let your body take over your mind.
Being a guy I say u could put legs up or spread em.
You could kiss him scratch his back..grasp him close
Spread ur legs so he can get deeper which might make you moan or do some of the mentioned things....y'all could try karma sutra(I think that's rights)
touch his back, or head, squeeze his butt, moan ALOT, or surprise him, by next time, suggest to be on top, or give him oral.
take controls sometimes leave him to be the one laying down, maybe your not satisfied with him in bed have you considered that
grab his buttock, scratch his back, bite his shoulder, lick his earlobe, suck his neck..
do a little moaning and grinding into him when he comes closer to you say his name makes men go crazy when they think ur really into it
grip his back, gently dig your nails into his back moan, maybe grab his butt lol run your fingers through his hair
Just moan and talk dirty.
Aahhhh a future mainstay in the STD ward.
Kiss him when he does it and place his hands where you want it to be
Moan more
move with him. and of course don't forget to smile and be happy :)
just kiss him
ask him does he expect you to read his mind on putting more into it
O MY GOD...MOAN!!!!!! just moan. its attractive as hell
u can kiss him...
touch his body...
idk...
be sexy
lol
Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
If you see a girl that looks attractive when you are out in public somewhere, what do you do? I mean since you have never seen her before you don't know what she likes and stuff. So how do you get to know her better and possibly meet her again? Obviously I know you have to talk to her but I don't know what you would say and how you would initiate a conversation.Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
are you single? If you are gay dont answer
are you single? If you are gay dont answer
GUYS- TRANSLATION PLEASE!!!!? MALE ADVICE?? I would really appreciate it....?
THIS QUESTION IS LONG SO IF YOU DON'T HAVE THE MATURITY TO READ IT THE DON'T WASTE MY TIME ANSWERING IT.
I'm a Junior in high school.
it all started in the 8th grade...
I was with my friends and he was with his. I turned around and he was staring at me. I've never had eye contact like that before. it's really hard to explain but I'll try. it was almost like he was seeing through me and it truly felt like everyone and everything else had disappeared for a couple of seconds only because we were so focused on each other. we stared at each other back and forth for at least an hour, both of us too nervous to make a move. my friend and I left and I didn't think much of the whole thing. I was one of those flirty, social kind of girls so it was just fun for me.
next time I saw him was grade 9 at high school. I turned around and he was staring at me. I didn't have any classes with him but he would stare at me every time I saw him in the hallway and look away when I looked back. sometimes I would act like I didn't notice just to see how long he would stare. I found out his name from a friend of mine. I asked her about him and she said he was smart and told me about a presentation that he had done about anti depressants. he said that his mom had hyper thyroidism and was on the pills. my mom had hyper thyrodism too. really ironic things would happen...like we never had any classes together but we just so happen to pass each other in a big high school with over 2,000 people a couple times a day for two years. there's a twist in the story though...I had changed a lot since he first saw me. I was struggling with depression and had became very antisocial, careless about making friends and my school work, and rude; the exact opposite of how I was when he first saw me.
the whole staring thing went on from around winter time to the end of the year.
Over the summer I thought 'okay, this guy doesn't even know me. there's no way he still likes me.'
first day of school of my sophmore year. I was looking at my schedule. I looked up and he was staring at me. I wasn't so much depressed at this point but I had become very shy because I wasn't used to talking to people. we have an advisory period where they take attendence and coincidentally mine was right next to his. I was recruited to be in a group that a couple of his close friends are in. we both just so happen to have the same english class the same period right across the hall from each other and it seemed like we would always end up in the hallway at the same time near each other. he would always stare at me every time he saw me. this deep, penetrating stare that I've never had before. all of these coincidences and we had never even spoken to each other before.
I'm a Junior now and every time he sees me he acts like I'm not there. there were a couple of times when he was looking at me and he thought I didn't notice but my attitude is just ';whatever. take it or leave it'; I don't know if he just gave up or felt like I rejected him but I guess it doesn't really matter now and what is meant to be will be.
I was leaving class (his class is right next to mine) and talking to one of my friends. I noticed when he came out he was looking at me but I'm not sure if he was listening. coincidentally when I started walking like 3 or 4 of his friends were next to me and in front of me and he was behind me. he was cussing like every other word. lol seriously. I turned to look at him and he just stopped talking and it got really quiet. I turned around and kept walking and he went back to his cussing.
I was wondering if it meant anything that it got so quiet and that he stopped? or why did his friends look at me when I was walking between them?
I appreciate it if you've made it this far!!GUYS- TRANSLATION PLEASE!!!!? MALE ADVICE?? I would really appreciate it....?
Well i can tell u that he WAS mesmerized by you. That stare u discribed is how i know he liked u alot. but he probably just thought u didnt like him so he got over u over the years. And as far as when it got quiet it was cause he didnt want to cus while he was looking at u cause u might think he was cussin at u and he might still have a little fellings for you
I'm a Junior in high school.
it all started in the 8th grade...
I was with my friends and he was with his. I turned around and he was staring at me. I've never had eye contact like that before. it's really hard to explain but I'll try. it was almost like he was seeing through me and it truly felt like everyone and everything else had disappeared for a couple of seconds only because we were so focused on each other. we stared at each other back and forth for at least an hour, both of us too nervous to make a move. my friend and I left and I didn't think much of the whole thing. I was one of those flirty, social kind of girls so it was just fun for me.
next time I saw him was grade 9 at high school. I turned around and he was staring at me. I didn't have any classes with him but he would stare at me every time I saw him in the hallway and look away when I looked back. sometimes I would act like I didn't notice just to see how long he would stare. I found out his name from a friend of mine. I asked her about him and she said he was smart and told me about a presentation that he had done about anti depressants. he said that his mom had hyper thyroidism and was on the pills. my mom had hyper thyrodism too. really ironic things would happen...like we never had any classes together but we just so happen to pass each other in a big high school with over 2,000 people a couple times a day for two years. there's a twist in the story though...I had changed a lot since he first saw me. I was struggling with depression and had became very antisocial, careless about making friends and my school work, and rude; the exact opposite of how I was when he first saw me.
the whole staring thing went on from around winter time to the end of the year.
Over the summer I thought 'okay, this guy doesn't even know me. there's no way he still likes me.'
first day of school of my sophmore year. I was looking at my schedule. I looked up and he was staring at me. I wasn't so much depressed at this point but I had become very shy because I wasn't used to talking to people. we have an advisory period where they take attendence and coincidentally mine was right next to his. I was recruited to be in a group that a couple of his close friends are in. we both just so happen to have the same english class the same period right across the hall from each other and it seemed like we would always end up in the hallway at the same time near each other. he would always stare at me every time he saw me. this deep, penetrating stare that I've never had before. all of these coincidences and we had never even spoken to each other before.
I'm a Junior now and every time he sees me he acts like I'm not there. there were a couple of times when he was looking at me and he thought I didn't notice but my attitude is just ';whatever. take it or leave it'; I don't know if he just gave up or felt like I rejected him but I guess it doesn't really matter now and what is meant to be will be.
I was leaving class (his class is right next to mine) and talking to one of my friends. I noticed when he came out he was looking at me but I'm not sure if he was listening. coincidentally when I started walking like 3 or 4 of his friends were next to me and in front of me and he was behind me. he was cussing like every other word. lol seriously. I turned to look at him and he just stopped talking and it got really quiet. I turned around and kept walking and he went back to his cussing.
I was wondering if it meant anything that it got so quiet and that he stopped? or why did his friends look at me when I was walking between them?
I appreciate it if you've made it this far!!GUYS- TRANSLATION PLEASE!!!!? MALE ADVICE?? I would really appreciate it....?
Well i can tell u that he WAS mesmerized by you. That stare u discribed is how i know he liked u alot. but he probably just thought u didnt like him so he got over u over the years. And as far as when it got quiet it was cause he didnt want to cus while he was looking at u cause u might think he was cussin at u and he might still have a little fellings for you
Guys ..... I need you advice?
My crush and I like each other alot. It was like this last week because I could just tell. Anyway now I was talking to a guy friend who knows my crush and apparently he doesn't want me as a gf but he really likes/ liked me in that way. He has done this twice now it's nearlly as if it's ok for him to show he's interested in me in that way but whenever it actually comes to doing something about it he keeps putting it of. My friend said that he's just not ready but he hasn't denied liking me in that way. I am just sooooooooo confused!! So I'm trying to move on now but I don't want it to be awkward between us. Bearing in mind all of his friends know and I haven't really spoken to him all that much is it best to 'play it cool' like in a way ignoring him or if you have any other suggestions please tell. By the way last time I 'played it cool' he started liking me again. I really need your help. Thank You.Guys ..... I need you advice?
Move on and play it cool and just remember what he did the last time and keep moving!!Guys ..... I need you advice?
You seem to be overwhelmed by your emotions. That is not good! However, you need not to bother about someone who likes you - it is a wastage of time. Please find someone who love s you. I mean someone with a self giving love directed to you. If you keep on hunting you wanna be in a rut by getting your spouse with a wrong expectation. Moreover know that love is 'as strong as death' don't keep cool begin attachment dating immediately. Bear to your plans and make your dreams real!
If you want play it cool and keep playing it cool who know it might get to him and he will actually ask you out. If not it best just to move on not every guy is boyfriend material.
if u want to u should go for it before its too late and if u play cool for too long he might even find another (gf)
Whether it's conciously or subconciously, this guy is jerking you around and that's not cool. Forget about him and find someone else. There are tonnnns of guys out there.
Move on and play it cool and just remember what he did the last time and keep moving!!Guys ..... I need you advice?
You seem to be overwhelmed by your emotions. That is not good! However, you need not to bother about someone who likes you - it is a wastage of time. Please find someone who love s you. I mean someone with a self giving love directed to you. If you keep on hunting you wanna be in a rut by getting your spouse with a wrong expectation. Moreover know that love is 'as strong as death' don't keep cool begin attachment dating immediately. Bear to your plans and make your dreams real!
If you want play it cool and keep playing it cool who know it might get to him and he will actually ask you out. If not it best just to move on not every guy is boyfriend material.
if u want to u should go for it before its too late and if u play cool for too long he might even find another (gf)
Whether it's conciously or subconciously, this guy is jerking you around and that's not cool. Forget about him and find someone else. There are tonnnns of guys out there.
Guys i need your advice..what to get my BF for his bday?
My bf is very much into Computer Games- He doesnt own a PSP nor xbox. All hi sgames he plays it on his comp. His birthday is next week and i know there are 2 things he would love a graphics card or PSP 3. If it were your birthday wich one would you perfer?
i'm leaning more towards graphic card for his comp but i dnt know which one's are good..i think he likes the 4870 soemthing lol i forgot the rest..HELP ME thanks.Guys i need your advice..what to get my BF for his bday?
PSP that thing might the best. Think about it , PSP he always play and also he play he always think about u. When buy PSP buy some games.Guys i need your advice..what to get my BF for his bday?
In the ming of a computer geek i would go with the graphics card if you notice him playin a lot on the computer, but if he talks about wanting a ps3 a lot then give him something he doesn't have; the ps3.
In my opinion he should be happy with either.
Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
If you see a girl that looks attractive when you are out in public somewhere, what do you do? I mean since you have never seen her before you don't know what she likes and stuff. So how do you get to know her better and possibly meet her again? Obviously I know you have to talk to her but I don't know what you would say and how you would initiate a conversation.Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
The key is to be spontanious, outgoing, funny, and confident. Just go up to her and start talking with a smile! It's contagious. Plus, you'll seperate yourself from all the other idiots out there who never had the courage to go up and talk to her! Have something planned to talk about (such as if your in a clothing store, ask her opinion on something) and then get talking about other things. If it goes well, say something like, ';Well i have to go, let me get your number real quick so we can continue this conversation sometime'; Get her number and leave. Do this while your in mid conversation so it'll leave her lingering for more :) Good luck man.Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
Well, my advice to you, is look her in the eye once. Than show her absolutely no attention. It drives girls crazy, because they want to chase after something they can't have. When you show her you're not interested, she will eventually come to you. Or you could always just kinda smile at her, and strike conversation just go up to her and be like ';Hey why do you look so familiar?'; and continue on with your conversation.
The key is to be spontanious, outgoing, funny, and confident. Just go up to her and start talking with a smile! It's contagious. Plus, you'll seperate yourself from all the other idiots out there who never had the courage to go up and talk to her! Have something planned to talk about (such as if your in a clothing store, ask her opinion on something) and then get talking about other things. If it goes well, say something like, ';Well i have to go, let me get your number real quick so we can continue this conversation sometime'; Get her number and leave. Do this while your in mid conversation so it'll leave her lingering for more :) Good luck man.Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
Well, my advice to you, is look her in the eye once. Than show her absolutely no attention. It drives girls crazy, because they want to chase after something they can't have. When you show her you're not interested, she will eventually come to you. Or you could always just kinda smile at her, and strike conversation just go up to her and be like ';Hey why do you look so familiar?'; and continue on with your conversation.
Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
If you see a girl that looks attractive when you are out in public somewhere, what do you do? I mean since you have never seen her before you don't know what she likes and stuff. So how do you get to know her better and possibly meet her again? Obviously I know you have to talk to her but I don't know what you would say and how you would initiate a conversation.Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
start talking about where you are
i mean, if you both are at the same place, you at least share one interest...if you're at the skating rink start talking about ice skating, if you're at the movies start talking about moviesNeed Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
just go up to her and talk about stuff you enjoy and ask her about herself and then if she sounds interesting then ask her to meet you at the movies next friday and take it from there
u should go up to the chicks and be like i know u from somewhere and name cool places that u have been and that will most likly get anyones attention it will definetly get mine i really hope that helped
go up to her, and be like ''hey what school do you go to?...'; or something like that. you'll probably think it's akward and stuff but be confident and the girl will never get that moment out of her head! (trust me!)
i think Lizzy was raped by her dad when she was only a little girl.cleansing diet
start talking about where you are
i mean, if you both are at the same place, you at least share one interest...if you're at the skating rink start talking about ice skating, if you're at the movies start talking about moviesNeed Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
just go up to her and talk about stuff you enjoy and ask her about herself and then if she sounds interesting then ask her to meet you at the movies next friday and take it from there
u should go up to the chicks and be like i know u from somewhere and name cool places that u have been and that will most likly get anyones attention it will definetly get mine i really hope that helped
go up to her, and be like ''hey what school do you go to?...'; or something like that. you'll probably think it's akward and stuff but be confident and the girl will never get that moment out of her head! (trust me!)
i think Lizzy was raped by her dad when she was only a little girl.
Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
If you see a girl that looks attractive when you are out in public somewhere, what do you do? I mean since you have never seen her before you don't know what she likes and stuff. So how do you get to know her better and possibly meet her again? Obviously I know you have to talk to her but I don't know what you would say and how you would initiate a conversation.Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
That's pretty tough. TBH, I'm not completely sure, but random people meeting usually happens from unseen occurrence like her dropping her books, bumping into her, etc. Since you don't know much about her except what you can judge based on appearance (shouldn't do that but lol) all you can do is take the chance. I would just judge based on whether she is approachable, maybe see something in-common.
I think the very first think you should try to do is to make eye contact and see if she makes eye contact back. If you go up to her, say hi and give a small compliment. From there you can tell whether she's interested or not. Startup something like what's your name, make a funny remark, etc. It's even harder if she's with her friends around...Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
take an ice cube, crush it and say ';i've broken the ice, now can i have your number....?';
Simply approach her and attempt too strike up a casual conversation. Ask what her name is and how she is, etc. Try not too come on to her aggressivly, as that's a sign of creepiness. Be yourself and don't worry about how she'll react. If you're a decent person and you don't obnoxiously flatter her or drop sexual inuendos, she should like you. If not, then she's simply not worth your time, no matter how hot she is.
walk pass her and drop something, and just be like ';sorry for geting in your way'; .shell be like ';thats okay';..and you take it from ther i think
Here are some ideas
*Bump into her and create a conversation
*tell her what you really think
*ask her if you've seen her somewhere before
* If she goes to your school, ask her about a after school activity, maybe a game and what time it is
*Ask if she knows where a certain store is
* Ask if you can get her something to eat and sit down and talk
*I'm 13 female, so these ideas might suck but yeah lol
just introducce yourself and ask her question 2 kno eachother
dont bump into her or any of that crap because boys be doing that to me its funny at first but when it keeps happening to u the girl will get pissed so dont do that just tell her straight up u pretty nd if she responds to u then u ask her her name and u get to know her and exchange numbers onli if the girl dont have a bf i noe i helped so welcome i am not being conceited just saying
Well if its like in a mall or something....keep MAGICALLY (dont over do it!! then its stalking!! once or twice after the first time is good) popping up around where the girl is....and smile innocently....then after a few times, if she smiles back and grins and giggles, be like ';You following me?'; See what she says and if its appropriate,tell her your name FIRST and then ask hers. Compliment her but not in a perverted way, say something like..';your smile is nice'; or ';your laugh is cute';.
Dont talk too long! Casually say you have to go and ask if you can give your number or if you can have hers.
Be very careful though!!! Make sure she acts like she likes you and DONT be too pushy
Go up to her and just start talking to her. Find something that will spark a conversation. For instance: If you are at a bar and there is a game on, ask her if she likes football. Tell her that you noticed her. Believe me if she is worth it, she will respond well. :)
';Now I can tell you 30 times how to pimp you a b---- and I can tell 20 times and you still wont know.';
Well... that happens all the time when your walking down the street or your at a store and you like someone, but don't know what to do or say. Well... if you see a girl you like maybe you should comment on what she is wearing or ask her a question saying ';Do you know where this place is or how to get here? IDK. It's a hard question. Good luck!
Be like ';hey you look familiar.. do i know you from somewhere?'; with a smile. Then she will say no.... lol. And if she is short then move on if she smiles back shes interested and ask to for her name talk some more.. ask for a number. Or you could say can i give you my number or get yours? If she says ill get yours shes not interested. Dont get nervous and do not over think it.
Hope i could help you out a little.
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just say....hello
ok go up to her and ask her for the time... then tell her you like her outfit or anything complement her and start a conversation... soon you'll become friends
wow your shallow. Unless your really hott this girl wont be interested bcuz shes so used to guys like you with corny pick up lines i mean thats cool that u wanna get to know her but seriously man. But if your really set on talking to that girl its cool to be forward, I mean, unless shes in a bad mood and fed up with guys hitting on her, she'll give you a chance, so like, wavw at her from across the room then go up to her and be like hey, my name is_____, whats up. She'l be like not much and shell love the confidence, then ask if she wants to get something to eat with u.
hey, can i buy you a ______? (coffee, sandwhich, drink, etc.)
That's pretty tough. TBH, I'm not completely sure, but random people meeting usually happens from unseen occurrence like her dropping her books, bumping into her, etc. Since you don't know much about her except what you can judge based on appearance (shouldn't do that but lol) all you can do is take the chance. I would just judge based on whether she is approachable, maybe see something in-common.
I think the very first think you should try to do is to make eye contact and see if she makes eye contact back. If you go up to her, say hi and give a small compliment. From there you can tell whether she's interested or not. Startup something like what's your name, make a funny remark, etc. It's even harder if she's with her friends around...Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
take an ice cube, crush it and say ';i've broken the ice, now can i have your number....?';
Simply approach her and attempt too strike up a casual conversation. Ask what her name is and how she is, etc. Try not too come on to her aggressivly, as that's a sign of creepiness. Be yourself and don't worry about how she'll react. If you're a decent person and you don't obnoxiously flatter her or drop sexual inuendos, she should like you. If not, then she's simply not worth your time, no matter how hot she is.
walk pass her and drop something, and just be like ';sorry for geting in your way'; .shell be like ';thats okay';..and you take it from ther i think
Here are some ideas
*Bump into her and create a conversation
*tell her what you really think
*ask her if you've seen her somewhere before
* If she goes to your school, ask her about a after school activity, maybe a game and what time it is
*Ask if she knows where a certain store is
* Ask if you can get her something to eat and sit down and talk
*I'm 13 female, so these ideas might suck but yeah lol
just introducce yourself and ask her question 2 kno eachother
dont bump into her or any of that crap because boys be doing that to me its funny at first but when it keeps happening to u the girl will get pissed so dont do that just tell her straight up u pretty nd if she responds to u then u ask her her name and u get to know her and exchange numbers onli if the girl dont have a bf i noe i helped so welcome i am not being conceited just saying
Well if its like in a mall or something....keep MAGICALLY (dont over do it!! then its stalking!! once or twice after the first time is good) popping up around where the girl is....and smile innocently....then after a few times, if she smiles back and grins and giggles, be like ';You following me?'; See what she says and if its appropriate,tell her your name FIRST and then ask hers. Compliment her but not in a perverted way, say something like..';your smile is nice'; or ';your laugh is cute';.
Dont talk too long! Casually say you have to go and ask if you can give your number or if you can have hers.
Be very careful though!!! Make sure she acts like she likes you and DONT be too pushy
Go up to her and just start talking to her. Find something that will spark a conversation. For instance: If you are at a bar and there is a game on, ask her if she likes football. Tell her that you noticed her. Believe me if she is worth it, she will respond well. :)
';Now I can tell you 30 times how to pimp you a b---- and I can tell 20 times and you still wont know.';
Well... that happens all the time when your walking down the street or your at a store and you like someone, but don't know what to do or say. Well... if you see a girl you like maybe you should comment on what she is wearing or ask her a question saying ';Do you know where this place is or how to get here? IDK. It's a hard question. Good luck!
Be like ';hey you look familiar.. do i know you from somewhere?'; with a smile. Then she will say no.... lol. And if she is short then move on if she smiles back shes interested and ask to for her name talk some more.. ask for a number. Or you could say can i give you my number or get yours? If she says ill get yours shes not interested. Dont get nervous and do not over think it.
Hope i could help you out a little.
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just say....hello
ok go up to her and ask her for the time... then tell her you like her outfit or anything complement her and start a conversation... soon you'll become friends
wow your shallow. Unless your really hott this girl wont be interested bcuz shes so used to guys like you with corny pick up lines i mean thats cool that u wanna get to know her but seriously man. But if your really set on talking to that girl its cool to be forward, I mean, unless shes in a bad mood and fed up with guys hitting on her, she'll give you a chance, so like, wavw at her from across the room then go up to her and be like hey, my name is_____, whats up. She'l be like not much and shell love the confidence, then ask if she wants to get something to eat with u.
hey, can i buy you a ______? (coffee, sandwhich, drink, etc.)
Do gay guys get mad when a straight guy ask for fashion advice?
be for you get all bent out of shape . gay guys are still guys and guys are more straightforward and honest then woman will ever be.
I need a straightforward answer not some sugar coated answer.
well i want to get back in the dating game 25 and have not had a long term GF b4 and i want a GF .
so i am give my self a make over of sort. I like to shop i am bad .lol
I am looking for a new hair Style . i have no clue what will look good.
i post pic in a min if that ok with you.
btw i am going to post this in the single / dating section trying to get all the advice i can get.Do gay guys get mad when a straight guy ask for fashion advice?
1. Shave your face for a clean look
2. You will be better off with a shorter cut, the last two photos showed a more bristled style which suits you better.
3. Make sure you have a nice pair of dark denim jeans with a straight leg and no embellishments on the pockets, this gives you a slimline look and if you team it with a close fitting black t-shirt you'll be great. If you're broad shouldered, get a shirt with a v-neck.
4. Brown leather lace ups (stylish only) with a thinned toe (as in pointy at the end).
But that's my opinion.
P.S You have very nice blue eyes.Do gay guys get mad when a straight guy ask for fashion advice?
You should shave all that facial hair straight off. Keep your sideburns as short as possible (I hate sideburns). Grow you hair out a bit, spike it up a bit.
I like guys that dress like this
http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/photos/u鈥?/a>
You might think the Jonas Brothers are lame but I love the way they dress. It's so hot.
http://www.joejonasphotos.com/albums/lon鈥?/a>
I don't get mad. I see it as a compliment, so, bring it on, sweetcheeks! ^_^ (But I would shave the beard if you haven't already. Facial hair adds too many years to your appearence.) You would look cute if you had straighter hair, but, what you have isn't bad. Try spiking it, or gelling it forward and spiking it at the front. That would look very nice. Just my opinion! :)
get more texture added into the top part of your hair. let it grow out some. keep the sides short but grow out the rest to add more dimension and movement. I think it would look better on your face as well.
I never get that problem, i dress worse than most of the guys i know, (i don't really care about looking great all the time)
i would say
definitely go for a clean shave and grow your hair longer to about the bottom of your forehead
Bring it!
If you are open to constructive criticism...
Pic 1; unruly sideburns... keep them neatly trimmed.
Pic 2; same about the sideburns, but you have beautiful blue eyes.
Pic 3; honest answer, this is a very unflattering pic... stay away from too much facial hair.
Pic 4; you look good with a short haircut and a closely shaved beard.
Pic 5; same advice as pic 4. This is the best of the 5, and I would ask a guy who looked like this out for a date.
Keep your haircut short, as in pics 4 %26amp; 5 (where you resemble the actor Ryan Gosling). Keep the sideburns short and neatly trimmed. Facial hair works for you, as long as you keep it very short as in Pics 4 %26amp; 5; stay away from the long facial hair as in Pic 3. Wearing blue shirts will also get other notice your beautiful eyes.
I need a straightforward answer not some sugar coated answer.
well i want to get back in the dating game 25 and have not had a long term GF b4 and i want a GF .
so i am give my self a make over of sort. I like to shop i am bad .lol
I am looking for a new hair Style . i have no clue what will look good.
i post pic in a min if that ok with you.
btw i am going to post this in the single / dating section trying to get all the advice i can get.Do gay guys get mad when a straight guy ask for fashion advice?
1. Shave your face for a clean look
2. You will be better off with a shorter cut, the last two photos showed a more bristled style which suits you better.
3. Make sure you have a nice pair of dark denim jeans with a straight leg and no embellishments on the pockets, this gives you a slimline look and if you team it with a close fitting black t-shirt you'll be great. If you're broad shouldered, get a shirt with a v-neck.
4. Brown leather lace ups (stylish only) with a thinned toe (as in pointy at the end).
But that's my opinion.
P.S You have very nice blue eyes.Do gay guys get mad when a straight guy ask for fashion advice?
You should shave all that facial hair straight off. Keep your sideburns as short as possible (I hate sideburns). Grow you hair out a bit, spike it up a bit.
I like guys that dress like this
http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/photos/u鈥?/a>
You might think the Jonas Brothers are lame but I love the way they dress. It's so hot.
http://www.joejonasphotos.com/albums/lon鈥?/a>
I don't get mad. I see it as a compliment, so, bring it on, sweetcheeks! ^_^ (But I would shave the beard if you haven't already. Facial hair adds too many years to your appearence.) You would look cute if you had straighter hair, but, what you have isn't bad. Try spiking it, or gelling it forward and spiking it at the front. That would look very nice. Just my opinion! :)
get more texture added into the top part of your hair. let it grow out some. keep the sides short but grow out the rest to add more dimension and movement. I think it would look better on your face as well.
I never get that problem, i dress worse than most of the guys i know, (i don't really care about looking great all the time)
i would say
definitely go for a clean shave and grow your hair longer to about the bottom of your forehead
Bring it!
If you are open to constructive criticism...
Pic 1; unruly sideburns... keep them neatly trimmed.
Pic 2; same about the sideburns, but you have beautiful blue eyes.
Pic 3; honest answer, this is a very unflattering pic... stay away from too much facial hair.
Pic 4; you look good with a short haircut and a closely shaved beard.
Pic 5; same advice as pic 4. This is the best of the 5, and I would ask a guy who looked like this out for a date.
Keep your haircut short, as in pics 4 %26amp; 5 (where you resemble the actor Ryan Gosling). Keep the sideburns short and neatly trimmed. Facial hair works for you, as long as you keep it very short as in Pics 4 %26amp; 5; stay away from the long facial hair as in Pic 3. Wearing blue shirts will also get other notice your beautiful eyes.
I Need Advice About Sex?! Please Guys And Girls Opinions?
What is a girl suppose to do when the man is on top? you know instead of just laying there while he is doing all the work?
I have never had any complaints in that department until now. He says I could put a little more into it.
So what do you men personally like? or what are some good tips from you ladies?
By the way i'm 20. Please no rude commentsI Need Advice About Sex?! Please Guys And Girls Opinions?
I totally understand what you're going through!
When a guy is on top, encourage him by groaning, kissing him, and you can regulate his speed by talking to him. [not necessarily talking but demanding/sexy talk].
Personally, I found that when my guy is on top i love rubbing his chest and pulling him down to kiss him or nibble his ears. Even tightening your muscles inside tighten enough to make it more pleasurable for him. You can also try moving your legs in different positions: straddling him while he is on top, spreading your legs completely out, hold your legs in closer towards your chest.
Hope this helps!I Need Advice About Sex?! Please Guys And Girls Opinions?
hmm.. well instead of laying there doing nothing lolee. Maybe put your legs arond him ( lower back -ish ) you also, could get more pleasure out of it, cause it goes deeper, and kiss him in the neck or something while he`s F***ing you. :) guys love to be kissed too, squeeze their arms and kiss them., it might make them feel muscular :) guys like their pride :P . Also, you can kiss at the same time ( some people find it hard ) . Some guys think its a turn on. or just grab on his hair. if he likes it rough. :P ! try biting his shoulders ( gently, not to hard ) just tease around. Carful if you try to bite lips ( which is a turn on ) cause, my boyfriend was doing this to me once. and lolee. and he bit off a peice of my lip, so just bite gently, :P dont get too carried away. dont forget to ask your partner if he is liking whatever it is you are doing,
just stoke his hair, hold him close, pull him into you further when you feel the time is right. Reach down and ';take care of business'; yourself, and then grab one of his hands and try to get him to do it. You'll have to show him because until a guy knows EXACTLY WHERE, AND WHAT the clit is, it is going to be a mystery to him. It's like show and tell, but with more 'show' and less 'tell'.
Also - when he is on top, and his is hitting the RIGHT SPOTS, MOAN. Moan your azz off to let him know... May just a litte at 1st... Just a couple of whimpers, and then if he keeps doing the right thing, inch it up a little until you think you can get him to make you climax. if not, then switch positions, and show him what I talked about earlier. Also - it's it's a really intimate moment and he's on top, be sure to look him in the eyes. Keep eye contact and control your vocal feeback as he pleases you. That's my advice - NOW RUN WITH IT! -john in Iowa
I make a load of noises to really turn him on, touch his back, hold his arms (moaning and gripping his arms when it feels really good is apparently a massive turn on for my guy!)...Rub my boobs.... I've been worried at times that I'm not doing enough and he'll think I'm being lazy and making him do all the work or something (I prefer him being on top most of the time as it feels better) but truthfully there's not a lot really you can do from that position!!
Have you tried asking him what he would like you to do?
well u getting all the advice under the sun LOL
grab butt
moan
talk dirty
wrap ur legs like a pretzel and lift urself up to meet his thrusts
scratch back
and more and more
but if u are doing these things and he is still not happy with it then there is only one solution for u..and that is to ask HIM and if he gets irritated by this question then its his own fault..he is not showing u what exactly he wants (some men actually do like a finger up the butt LOL but how does one know that if he doesn't say so or if y'all don't talk about it?) every person has there preference
When you're really in the mood, you won't even need telling. Wrap your legs around him, let your hands and your mouth wander, writhe, run your nails down his back, breathe on his skin, etc. I've heard guys say they like girls to lift their hips to ';meet in the middle';. But if he was so great, you wouldn't have to force it!
Dude answering here-
If the guy says he wants more from you out of it, I've personally never had a problem with girl moaning in my ear....personal fav there! But I've never heard a guy complain about sex...He's weird. But there is not much to do when on bottom. It's the same scenario vice versa! Try and pull him closer, that may work?
When my husband and I are in the action, he loves being on top. I always just lift one leg up higher and put it over my hips, or I push up with my pelvis.
I try to make it very sensual between the two of us. I grasp his back, and run my fingers through his hair, kiss his neck. Grab his hips and booty.
Ha, we both like to be very playful. Maybe that's what he is looking for.
Good luck, hope it helped.
I find moving your hands all over his back and chest to be a turn on, Sometimes dig your nails in, thats kinda sexy too
Kissing his neck and ear is fun
and moaning
But none of this works if you stress over it. Then it just becomes mechanical. Take deep breaths as you do this and feel it dont just do it.
Kiss him rub his chest and back. Arms and fingers.Look into his eyes. Grab him and be verbal, Moan tell him how good it feels. You want to feel him inside you. Is just sex or are you connecting emotionally? Are you orgasiming? Maybe try more foreplay before moving to intercourse. Makeout for a twenty minutes. Create more of an emotional bond before go into intercourse.
Ask him!
Seriously, guys like a million different things. If you've had no complaints before, then you can't be doing anything that wrong.
Talk to him about what he means, and maybe it's something you would or wouldn't be okay with.
Grab his bum %26amp; urge him to grind harder. Push your pelvis into his with rhythm.
I love when my lady grabs my neck and shoulders...rubbing is guud.
Talk a little noise, not too dirty. Encouraging such as, ';Im so wet for you,'; ';I want to cream on your ____.';
For some reason, American girls aren't as passionate in sex. So become waay more passionate.
hmm, some guys like it when a girl can be in control. it makes sense if a guy gets a little bored. i mean its reallly tirrringg :)
so just enjoy it on the bottom for a little while, then get on tooopp!
;)
hope i helllppeedd,
mindd answering minee?
Get really into it. Shove into him. spread your cheeks. Kiss him. dig your nails into his back. breathe hard into his ear. let him do you in the butt. change positions...
Don't talk.
Never talk.
Just grab him and pull him constantly.
And by the way, improv.
Do what you think is best, but don't plan ahead.
Just let your body take over your mind.
Being a guy I say u could put legs up or spread em.
You could kiss him scratch his back..grasp him close
Spread ur legs so he can get deeper which might make you moan or do some of the mentioned things....y'all could try karma sutra(I think that's rights)
touch his back, or head, squeeze his butt, moan ALOT, or surprise him, by next time, suggest to be on top, or give him oral.
take controls sometimes leave him to be the one laying down, maybe your not satisfied with him in bed have you considered that
grab his buttock, scratch his back, bite his shoulder, lick his earlobe, suck his neck..
do a little moaning and grinding into him when he comes closer to you say his name makes men go crazy when they think ur really into it
grip his back, gently dig your nails into his back moan, maybe grab his butt lol run your fingers through his hair
Just moan and talk dirty.
Aahhhh a future mainstay in the STD ward.
Kiss him when he does it and place his hands where you want it to be
Moan more
move with him. and of course don't forget to smile and be happy :)
just kiss him
ask him does he expect you to read his mind on putting more into it
O MY GOD...MOAN!!!!!! just moan. its attractive as hell
u can kiss him...
touch his body...
idk...
be sexy
lol
I have never had any complaints in that department until now. He says I could put a little more into it.
So what do you men personally like? or what are some good tips from you ladies?
By the way i'm 20. Please no rude commentsI Need Advice About Sex?! Please Guys And Girls Opinions?
I totally understand what you're going through!
When a guy is on top, encourage him by groaning, kissing him, and you can regulate his speed by talking to him. [not necessarily talking but demanding/sexy talk].
Personally, I found that when my guy is on top i love rubbing his chest and pulling him down to kiss him or nibble his ears. Even tightening your muscles inside tighten enough to make it more pleasurable for him. You can also try moving your legs in different positions: straddling him while he is on top, spreading your legs completely out, hold your legs in closer towards your chest.
Hope this helps!I Need Advice About Sex?! Please Guys And Girls Opinions?
hmm.. well instead of laying there doing nothing lolee. Maybe put your legs arond him ( lower back -ish ) you also, could get more pleasure out of it, cause it goes deeper, and kiss him in the neck or something while he`s F***ing you. :) guys love to be kissed too, squeeze their arms and kiss them., it might make them feel muscular :) guys like their pride :P . Also, you can kiss at the same time ( some people find it hard ) . Some guys think its a turn on. or just grab on his hair. if he likes it rough. :P ! try biting his shoulders ( gently, not to hard ) just tease around. Carful if you try to bite lips ( which is a turn on ) cause, my boyfriend was doing this to me once. and lolee. and he bit off a peice of my lip, so just bite gently, :P dont get too carried away. dont forget to ask your partner if he is liking whatever it is you are doing,
just stoke his hair, hold him close, pull him into you further when you feel the time is right. Reach down and ';take care of business'; yourself, and then grab one of his hands and try to get him to do it. You'll have to show him because until a guy knows EXACTLY WHERE, AND WHAT the clit is, it is going to be a mystery to him. It's like show and tell, but with more 'show' and less 'tell'.
Also - when he is on top, and his is hitting the RIGHT SPOTS, MOAN. Moan your azz off to let him know... May just a litte at 1st... Just a couple of whimpers, and then if he keeps doing the right thing, inch it up a little until you think you can get him to make you climax. if not, then switch positions, and show him what I talked about earlier. Also - it's it's a really intimate moment and he's on top, be sure to look him in the eyes. Keep eye contact and control your vocal feeback as he pleases you. That's my advice - NOW RUN WITH IT! -john in Iowa
I make a load of noises to really turn him on, touch his back, hold his arms (moaning and gripping his arms when it feels really good is apparently a massive turn on for my guy!)...Rub my boobs.... I've been worried at times that I'm not doing enough and he'll think I'm being lazy and making him do all the work or something (I prefer him being on top most of the time as it feels better) but truthfully there's not a lot really you can do from that position!!
Have you tried asking him what he would like you to do?
well u getting all the advice under the sun LOL
grab butt
moan
talk dirty
wrap ur legs like a pretzel and lift urself up to meet his thrusts
scratch back
and more and more
but if u are doing these things and he is still not happy with it then there is only one solution for u..and that is to ask HIM and if he gets irritated by this question then its his own fault..he is not showing u what exactly he wants (some men actually do like a finger up the butt LOL but how does one know that if he doesn't say so or if y'all don't talk about it?) every person has there preference
When you're really in the mood, you won't even need telling. Wrap your legs around him, let your hands and your mouth wander, writhe, run your nails down his back, breathe on his skin, etc. I've heard guys say they like girls to lift their hips to ';meet in the middle';. But if he was so great, you wouldn't have to force it!
Dude answering here-
If the guy says he wants more from you out of it, I've personally never had a problem with girl moaning in my ear....personal fav there! But I've never heard a guy complain about sex...He's weird. But there is not much to do when on bottom. It's the same scenario vice versa! Try and pull him closer, that may work?
When my husband and I are in the action, he loves being on top. I always just lift one leg up higher and put it over my hips, or I push up with my pelvis.
I try to make it very sensual between the two of us. I grasp his back, and run my fingers through his hair, kiss his neck. Grab his hips and booty.
Ha, we both like to be very playful. Maybe that's what he is looking for.
Good luck, hope it helped.
I find moving your hands all over his back and chest to be a turn on, Sometimes dig your nails in, thats kinda sexy too
Kissing his neck and ear is fun
and moaning
But none of this works if you stress over it. Then it just becomes mechanical. Take deep breaths as you do this and feel it dont just do it.
Kiss him rub his chest and back. Arms and fingers.Look into his eyes. Grab him and be verbal, Moan tell him how good it feels. You want to feel him inside you. Is just sex or are you connecting emotionally? Are you orgasiming? Maybe try more foreplay before moving to intercourse. Makeout for a twenty minutes. Create more of an emotional bond before go into intercourse.
Ask him!
Seriously, guys like a million different things. If you've had no complaints before, then you can't be doing anything that wrong.
Talk to him about what he means, and maybe it's something you would or wouldn't be okay with.
Grab his bum %26amp; urge him to grind harder. Push your pelvis into his with rhythm.
I love when my lady grabs my neck and shoulders...rubbing is guud.
Talk a little noise, not too dirty. Encouraging such as, ';Im so wet for you,'; ';I want to cream on your ____.';
For some reason, American girls aren't as passionate in sex. So become waay more passionate.
hmm, some guys like it when a girl can be in control. it makes sense if a guy gets a little bored. i mean its reallly tirrringg :)
so just enjoy it on the bottom for a little while, then get on tooopp!
;)
hope i helllppeedd,
mindd answering minee?
Get really into it. Shove into him. spread your cheeks. Kiss him. dig your nails into his back. breathe hard into his ear. let him do you in the butt. change positions...
Don't talk.
Never talk.
Just grab him and pull him constantly.
And by the way, improv.
Do what you think is best, but don't plan ahead.
Just let your body take over your mind.
Being a guy I say u could put legs up or spread em.
You could kiss him scratch his back..grasp him close
Spread ur legs so he can get deeper which might make you moan or do some of the mentioned things....y'all could try karma sutra(I think that's rights)
touch his back, or head, squeeze his butt, moan ALOT, or surprise him, by next time, suggest to be on top, or give him oral.
take controls sometimes leave him to be the one laying down, maybe your not satisfied with him in bed have you considered that
grab his buttock, scratch his back, bite his shoulder, lick his earlobe, suck his neck..
do a little moaning and grinding into him when he comes closer to you say his name makes men go crazy when they think ur really into it
grip his back, gently dig your nails into his back moan, maybe grab his butt lol run your fingers through his hair
Just moan and talk dirty.
Aahhhh a future mainstay in the STD ward.
Kiss him when he does it and place his hands where you want it to be
Moan more
move with him. and of course don't forget to smile and be happy :)
just kiss him
ask him does he expect you to read his mind on putting more into it
O MY GOD...MOAN!!!!!! just moan. its attractive as hell
u can kiss him...
touch his body...
idk...
be sexy
lol
Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
If you see a girl that looks attractive when you are out in public somewhere, what do you do? I mean since you have never seen her before you don't know what she likes and stuff. So how do you get to know her better and possibly meet her again? Obviously I know you have to talk to her but I don't know what you would say and how you would initiate a conversation.Need Some Advice from Girls and Guys?
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are you single? If you are gay dont answer
Guys i need your advice..what to get my BF for his bday?
My bf is very much into Computer Games- He doesnt own a PSP nor xbox. All hi sgames he plays it on his comp. His birthday is next week and i know there are 2 things he would love a graphics card or PSP 3. If it were your birthday wich one would you perfer?
i'm leaning more towards graphic card for his comp but i dnt know which one's are good..i think he likes the 4870 soemthing lol i forgot the rest..HELP ME thanks.Guys i need your advice..what to get my BF for his bday?
In the ming of a computer geek i would go with the graphics card if you notice him playin a lot on the computer, but if he talks about wanting a ps3 a lot then give him something he doesn't have; the ps3.
In my opinion he should be happy with either.Guys i need your advice..what to get my BF for his bday?
PSP that thing might the best. Think about it , PSP he always play and also he play he always think about u. When buy PSP buy some games.
Guys ..... I need you advice?
My crush and I like each other alot. It was like this last week because I could just tell. Anyway now I was talking to a guy friend who knows my crush and apparently he doesn't want me as a gf but he really likes/ liked me in that way. He has done this twice now it's nearlly as if it's ok for him to show he's interested in me in that way but whenever it actually comes to doing something about it he keeps putting it of. My friend said that he's just not ready but he hasn't denied liking me in that way. I am just sooooooooo confused!! So I'm trying to move on now but I don't want it to be awkward between us. Bearing in mind all of his friends know and I haven't really spoken to him all that much is it best to 'play it cool' like in a way ignoring him or if you have any other suggestions please tell. By the way last time I 'played it cool' he started liking me again. I really need your help. Thank You.Guys ..... I need you advice?
If you want play it cool and keep playing it cool who know it might get to him and he will actually ask you out. If not it best just to move on not every guy is boyfriend material.Guys ..... I need you advice?
Whether it's conciously or subconciously, this guy is jerking you around and that's not cool. Forget about him and find someone else. There are tonnnns of guys out there.
if u want to u should go for it before its too late and if u play cool for too long he might even find another (gf)
You seem to be overwhelmed by your emotions. That is not good! However, you need not to bother about someone who likes you - it is a wastage of time. Please find someone who love s you. I mean someone with a self giving love directed to you. If you keep on hunting you wanna be in a rut by getting your spouse with a wrong expectation. Moreover know that love is 'as strong as death' don't keep cool begin attachment dating immediately. Bear to your plans and make your dreams real!
Move on and play it cool and just remember what he did the last time and keep moving!!cleansing diet
If you want play it cool and keep playing it cool who know it might get to him and he will actually ask you out. If not it best just to move on not every guy is boyfriend material.Guys ..... I need you advice?
Whether it's conciously or subconciously, this guy is jerking you around and that's not cool. Forget about him and find someone else. There are tonnnns of guys out there.
if u want to u should go for it before its too late and if u play cool for too long he might even find another (gf)
You seem to be overwhelmed by your emotions. That is not good! However, you need not to bother about someone who likes you - it is a wastage of time. Please find someone who love s you. I mean someone with a self giving love directed to you. If you keep on hunting you wanna be in a rut by getting your spouse with a wrong expectation. Moreover know that love is 'as strong as death' don't keep cool begin attachment dating immediately. Bear to your plans and make your dreams real!
Move on and play it cool and just remember what he did the last time and keep moving!!
GUYS- TRANSLATION PLEASE!!!!? MALE ADVICE?? I would really appreciate it....?
THIS QUESTION IS LONG SO IF YOU DON'T HAVE THE MATURITY TO READ IT THE DON'T WASTE MY TIME ANSWERING IT.
I'm a Junior in high school.
it all started in the 8th grade...
I was with my friends and he was with his. I turned around and he was staring at me. I've never had eye contact like that before. it's really hard to explain but I'll try. it was almost like he was seeing through me and it truly felt like everyone and everything else had disappeared for a couple of seconds only because we were so focused on each other. we stared at each other back and forth for at least an hour, both of us too nervous to make a move. my friend and I left and I didn't think much of the whole thing. I was one of those flirty, social kind of girls so it was just fun for me.
next time I saw him was grade 9 at high school. I turned around and he was staring at me. I didn't have any classes with him but he would stare at me every time I saw him in the hallway and look away when I looked back. sometimes I would act like I didn't notice just to see how long he would stare. I found out his name from a friend of mine. I asked her about him and she said he was smart and told me about a presentation that he had done about anti depressants. he said that his mom had hyper thyroidism and was on the pills. my mom had hyper thyrodism too. really ironic things would happen...like we never had any classes together but we just so happen to pass each other in a big high school with over 2,000 people a couple times a day for two years. there's a twist in the story though...I had changed a lot since he first saw me. I was struggling with depression and had became very antisocial, careless about making friends and my school work, and rude; the exact opposite of how I was when he first saw me.
the whole staring thing went on from around winter time to the end of the year.
Over the summer I thought 'okay, this guy doesn't even know me. there's no way he still likes me.'
first day of school of my sophmore year. I was looking at my schedule. I looked up and he was staring at me. I wasn't so much depressed at this point but I had become very shy because I wasn't used to talking to people. we have an advisory period where they take attendence and coincidentally mine was right next to his. I was recruited to be in a group that a couple of his close friends are in. we both just so happen to have the same english class the same period right across the hall from each other and it seemed like we would always end up in the hallway at the same time near each other. he would always stare at me every time he saw me. this deep, penetrating stare that I've never had before. all of these coincidences and we had never even spoken to each other before.
I'm a Junior now and every time he sees me he acts like I'm not there. there were a couple of times when he was looking at me and he thought I didn't notice but my attitude is just ';whatever. take it or leave it'; I don't know if he just gave up or felt like I rejected him but I guess it doesn't really matter now and what is meant to be will be.
I was leaving class (his class is right next to mine) and talking to one of my friends. I noticed when he came out he was looking at me but I'm not sure if he was listening. coincidentally when I started walking like 3 or 4 of his friends were next to me and in front of me and he was behind me. he was cussing like every other word. lol seriously. I turned to look at him and he just stopped talking and it got really quiet. I turned around and kept walking and he went back to his cussing.
I was wondering if it meant anything that it got so quiet and that he stopped? or why did his friends look at me when I was walking between them?
I appreciate it if you've made it this far!!GUYS- TRANSLATION PLEASE!!!!? MALE ADVICE?? I would really appreciate it....?
Well i can tell u that he WAS mesmerized by you. That stare u discribed is how i know he liked u alot. but he probably just thought u didnt like him so he got over u over the years. And as far as when it got quiet it was cause he didnt want to cus while he was looking at u cause u might think he was cussin at u and he might still have a little fellings for you
I'm a Junior in high school.
it all started in the 8th grade...
I was with my friends and he was with his. I turned around and he was staring at me. I've never had eye contact like that before. it's really hard to explain but I'll try. it was almost like he was seeing through me and it truly felt like everyone and everything else had disappeared for a couple of seconds only because we were so focused on each other. we stared at each other back and forth for at least an hour, both of us too nervous to make a move. my friend and I left and I didn't think much of the whole thing. I was one of those flirty, social kind of girls so it was just fun for me.
next time I saw him was grade 9 at high school. I turned around and he was staring at me. I didn't have any classes with him but he would stare at me every time I saw him in the hallway and look away when I looked back. sometimes I would act like I didn't notice just to see how long he would stare. I found out his name from a friend of mine. I asked her about him and she said he was smart and told me about a presentation that he had done about anti depressants. he said that his mom had hyper thyroidism and was on the pills. my mom had hyper thyrodism too. really ironic things would happen...like we never had any classes together but we just so happen to pass each other in a big high school with over 2,000 people a couple times a day for two years. there's a twist in the story though...I had changed a lot since he first saw me. I was struggling with depression and had became very antisocial, careless about making friends and my school work, and rude; the exact opposite of how I was when he first saw me.
the whole staring thing went on from around winter time to the end of the year.
Over the summer I thought 'okay, this guy doesn't even know me. there's no way he still likes me.'
first day of school of my sophmore year. I was looking at my schedule. I looked up and he was staring at me. I wasn't so much depressed at this point but I had become very shy because I wasn't used to talking to people. we have an advisory period where they take attendence and coincidentally mine was right next to his. I was recruited to be in a group that a couple of his close friends are in. we both just so happen to have the same english class the same period right across the hall from each other and it seemed like we would always end up in the hallway at the same time near each other. he would always stare at me every time he saw me. this deep, penetrating stare that I've never had before. all of these coincidences and we had never even spoken to each other before.
I'm a Junior now and every time he sees me he acts like I'm not there. there were a couple of times when he was looking at me and he thought I didn't notice but my attitude is just ';whatever. take it or leave it'; I don't know if he just gave up or felt like I rejected him but I guess it doesn't really matter now and what is meant to be will be.
I was leaving class (his class is right next to mine) and talking to one of my friends. I noticed when he came out he was looking at me but I'm not sure if he was listening. coincidentally when I started walking like 3 or 4 of his friends were next to me and in front of me and he was behind me. he was cussing like every other word. lol seriously. I turned to look at him and he just stopped talking and it got really quiet. I turned around and kept walking and he went back to his cussing.
I was wondering if it meant anything that it got so quiet and that he stopped? or why did his friends look at me when I was walking between them?
I appreciate it if you've made it this far!!GUYS- TRANSLATION PLEASE!!!!? MALE ADVICE?? I would really appreciate it....?
Well i can tell u that he WAS mesmerized by you. That stare u discribed is how i know he liked u alot. but he probably just thought u didnt like him so he got over u over the years. And as far as when it got quiet it was cause he didnt want to cus while he was looking at u cause u might think he was cussin at u and he might still have a little fellings for you
Girls and guys i need some advice! plz!?
i work at this Walgreens that is really close to my house...bout 3 min drive. I started working there about a month ago and there is this one girl that caught my eye. She is my co-worker who is 20 years old and i want to ask her out on a date to go see a movie or have dinner or something. But the problem is...I'm only 17 so shes three years older than me and i feel like she only looks at me like im a kid. Now i dont act like one..but the way she talks to me sometimes gives off that feeling. Yesterday when i was leaving work (was working closing) she was the one who opened the door. Is store rule that once store is closed you have to have someone else open the door for you then lock it. Well i think she actually talked to me for real for the first time. She asked me ';hey what type of car do you drive?'; and then talked about her car for a little while. asked her is she was working Saturday and she said yeah; closing, then said cya then but that was it.
What i want to know is...is there any way to have her look at me like somebody who is datable and not a kid? cause i really am attracted to her. Thx for asnwering and reading the long question.Girls and guys i need some advice! plz!?
Just be yourself...you could casually bring it up in covo. ask her if she would ever date someone younger
What i want to know is...is there any way to have her look at me like somebody who is datable and not a kid? cause i really am attracted to her. Thx for asnwering and reading the long question.Girls and guys i need some advice! plz!?
Just be yourself...you could casually bring it up in covo. ask her if she would ever date someone younger
Ladies and guys, i need some advice?
i mean i have had a crush on her for the past ten yearsLadies and guys, i need some advice?
tell her. say something like ';i really like you. i can't help but being attracted to you. i know that you feel we're like family, but do you think would be anything more?'; but also tell her that you treasure you're friendship and that if she doesn't want anything more then you're OK with just being really really good friends.
tell her. say something like ';i really like you. i can't help but being attracted to you. i know that you feel we're like family, but do you think would be anything more?'; but also tell her that you treasure you're friendship and that if she doesn't want anything more then you're OK with just being really really good friends.
Why are guys like this.?? need advice ... be nice plz :) 10 points best answerrr =]?
ok so theres this guy im talking to and we been talking for a little over three months now i know he really likes me forsure and in the beginning i kno he'd talk to other girls but it was whatever cause i talked to other guys also but now were getting serious and he really wants to be in a relationship with me but he knows i need time cause my ex of 2 yrz really has me scared to even fall in love again i dont wanna get hurt and he knows this but why does he still flirt around and talk to other girls if he says he wants to be with me so much? nd he knows how scared i am of getting hurt...even tho were not together yet ive gained enough feelings for him to stop flirting around and stuff but why does he do it still? im so confused and dont kno what to think anymore about relationships...Why are guys like this.?? need advice ... be nice plz :) 10 points best answerrr =]?
Ok.. Well he might do that because you are pushing him away because your scared to date him.. He probably dont want to give up his life style if your not going to date him.. Boys are going to be boys and if he dont have respect for you kno then he wont have respect for you.. I hope you find someone that will respect you cause it seems like he is not givin up his lifestyle for you..
Ok.. Well he might do that because you are pushing him away because your scared to date him.. He probably dont want to give up his life style if your not going to date him.. Boys are going to be boys and if he dont have respect for you kno then he wont have respect for you.. I hope you find someone that will respect you cause it seems like he is not givin up his lifestyle for you..
Diffrent than other questions ive asked, but, guy advice?
So me and my boyfriend have been going out for about, almost 2 weeks, we still havnt gone anywhere. He's really shy, and doesnt talk alot, but I love to talk, what should I do? Its really awkward!Diffrent than other questions ive asked, but, guy advice?
persuade him to talk subtley, by talking about the things he is interested in... ask questions about things you might not understand about a subject or topic he loves. therefore hes talking about something he likes and interests him and you are learning something new! WIN WIN
when he realises u r interested in him too, he will probably feel more comfortable talking to you a little more... Be patient its only been two weeksDiffrent than other questions ive asked, but, guy advice?
ask him questions, it gives him the chance to open up to you and gives you the chance to have a real conversation with him. as far as going somewhere ask if you guys could go on a date or something. by you guys going out on a date like to lunch or diner or to the mall it sets up the environment for talking to him.
same ask him to go somewhere my bf and i are both shy too
Make the first move to go somewhere.
okay maybe you shouldn't listen to me cause im mean. ha. but just be like...
Hey you don't really talk to me much and you aren't really fun to be around. Pretty much you're boring because I talk all the time and honestly I get tired of talking. I think it's extremely awkward between us and I really want a relationship with you so could you please try to say more? Kthnx.
Yea. thats what i would do. Me and boyfriend weren't really talking at first. I talked alot and he listened. BUT if i talked enough about stupid stuff he eventually started talking to and now we're like this... well you get the point. good luck.
I'm sure he was shy before you started going out (2 weeks ago) so it shouldn't be a surprised that he is still shy.
All you have to do is talk to him and make him feel comfortable and also let him know that you want to go out sometime. Maybe to the movies, out bowling, or to the skating rink. I'm pretty sure it won't hurt to ask.
Maybe you should talk to him about what he thinks you guys can do together. Sometimes the guy is waiting for the first move. Talk to him and see what he wants to do. See what kind of stuff he likes to do and maybe you guys could do it together.
tell him to not be shy and that you can talk to him about anything
Talk to him about talking more.
persuade him to talk subtley, by talking about the things he is interested in... ask questions about things you might not understand about a subject or topic he loves. therefore hes talking about something he likes and interests him and you are learning something new! WIN WIN
when he realises u r interested in him too, he will probably feel more comfortable talking to you a little more... Be patient its only been two weeksDiffrent than other questions ive asked, but, guy advice?
ask him questions, it gives him the chance to open up to you and gives you the chance to have a real conversation with him. as far as going somewhere ask if you guys could go on a date or something. by you guys going out on a date like to lunch or diner or to the mall it sets up the environment for talking to him.
same ask him to go somewhere my bf and i are both shy too
Make the first move to go somewhere.
okay maybe you shouldn't listen to me cause im mean. ha. but just be like...
Hey you don't really talk to me much and you aren't really fun to be around. Pretty much you're boring because I talk all the time and honestly I get tired of talking. I think it's extremely awkward between us and I really want a relationship with you so could you please try to say more? Kthnx.
Yea. thats what i would do. Me and boyfriend weren't really talking at first. I talked alot and he listened. BUT if i talked enough about stupid stuff he eventually started talking to and now we're like this... well you get the point. good luck.
I'm sure he was shy before you started going out (2 weeks ago) so it shouldn't be a surprised that he is still shy.
All you have to do is talk to him and make him feel comfortable and also let him know that you want to go out sometime. Maybe to the movies, out bowling, or to the skating rink. I'm pretty sure it won't hurt to ask.
Maybe you should talk to him about what he thinks you guys can do together. Sometimes the guy is waiting for the first move. Talk to him and see what he wants to do. See what kind of stuff he likes to do and maybe you guys could do it together.
tell him to not be shy and that you can talk to him about anything
Talk to him about talking more.
Could you guys give me some advice?
ok, so i go to X high school.i live out of town so i have to ride two buses to get to my high school,in which im a junior. however, today EVERYONE in my bus started throwing crap at me and picking on me--and by that i mean everyone. even people who were nice to me. and i dont know what their deal is. i asked my parents to transfer to another high school (lets call it high school B) in which my friend goes and she has no problems(and shes just like me). but my parents said that they wont because even though they pay for your gas to school they wont pay for the maintenance of the car. i cant take this crap anymore..can anybody tell me what i should do ? thanks
(thanks for reading.)Could you guys give me some advice?
this is odd ball stuff,
mum, dad, silly little dudes......
first find out what licence your folks have for having children,
and then revoke this licence,
cancel this licence,,,,,,oooops, sorry,
you don't gotta have a licence to have kiddies,,,
shucks.
But have no fear, for the Supreme Being,
ahem, that is the reference to God....
for the Supreme Being, would like you to know of his
free gift of eternal life, that Jesus the Lord offered, when he rose again from the dead.
Just ask the Lord Jesus this,
Lord Jesus, I know and beleive that you died for me and rose again, so that I can have eternal life,
please forgive me of my sins and save me.
then you must learn how to overcome the fear and the absolute dread of this life,
and perhaps God may help you to turn your fears into
strength,
but you gotta learn to read the Bible,
King James 1611 holy bible,,,,cleansing diet
(thanks for reading.)Could you guys give me some advice?
this is odd ball stuff,
mum, dad, silly little dudes......
first find out what licence your folks have for having children,
and then revoke this licence,
cancel this licence,,,,,,oooops, sorry,
you don't gotta have a licence to have kiddies,,,
shucks.
But have no fear, for the Supreme Being,
ahem, that is the reference to God....
for the Supreme Being, would like you to know of his
free gift of eternal life, that Jesus the Lord offered, when he rose again from the dead.
Just ask the Lord Jesus this,
Lord Jesus, I know and beleive that you died for me and rose again, so that I can have eternal life,
please forgive me of my sins and save me.
then you must learn how to overcome the fear and the absolute dread of this life,
and perhaps God may help you to turn your fears into
strength,
but you gotta learn to read the Bible,
King James 1611 holy bible,,,,
Can you guys give me any advice on how to improve my roster? What are my weak and strong points? thnx?
C Varitek 1b Adrian Gonzalez 2b dan uggla 3b aramis ramirez ss hanley of manny ramirez, carlos beltran, carl crawford util jim thome bench dustin pedroia, jacoby ellsbury, ryan garko
SP Dan Haren, Felix Hernandez, Ben Sheets, AJ Burnett, Oliver Perez, Matt Cain, Liriano RP Franscisco Cordero, Joe NathanCan you guys give me any advice on how to improve my roster? What are my weak and strong points? thnx?
ur outfield is absolutely crazy (similar 2 mine- i have holliday, beltran, manny and francoeur). u can afford 2 trade away beltran for a star starter even if its not so even. ur first base aint to exciting either. try this:
beltran for:
peavy / wang / santana(probably not...) / webb / lincecum.
since john maine had a rough start 2 the season, this is the time 2 buy low:
garko / ellisbury for maineCan you guys give me any advice on how to improve my roster? What are my weak and strong points? thnx?
Varitek sucks, but C isn't that deep so u probably won't get much better than him. Not a big fan of Thome or Ramirez, but you could do worse. Pedroia, Ellsbury, and Garko are garbage unless its a keeper league. Pitching isn't bad, but you could use more closers. I think Manny is overrated nowadays. You need better avg and could probably trade Uggla for a 2B with less power, but more R and better avg. Maybe a Cano or Roberts. Other than that you don't have a bad team, alot of 5 tool players which is good.
your everyday players are good and i see only 2 strong pitchers in sheets and haren so i would look for stronger pitchers. try and stay away from mid inning relivers. stick to starters and closers
SP Dan Haren, Felix Hernandez, Ben Sheets, AJ Burnett, Oliver Perez, Matt Cain, Liriano RP Franscisco Cordero, Joe NathanCan you guys give me any advice on how to improve my roster? What are my weak and strong points? thnx?
ur outfield is absolutely crazy (similar 2 mine- i have holliday, beltran, manny and francoeur). u can afford 2 trade away beltran for a star starter even if its not so even. ur first base aint to exciting either. try this:
beltran for:
peavy / wang / santana(probably not...) / webb / lincecum.
since john maine had a rough start 2 the season, this is the time 2 buy low:
garko / ellisbury for maineCan you guys give me any advice on how to improve my roster? What are my weak and strong points? thnx?
Varitek sucks, but C isn't that deep so u probably won't get much better than him. Not a big fan of Thome or Ramirez, but you could do worse. Pedroia, Ellsbury, and Garko are garbage unless its a keeper league. Pitching isn't bad, but you could use more closers. I think Manny is overrated nowadays. You need better avg and could probably trade Uggla for a 2B with less power, but more R and better avg. Maybe a Cano or Roberts. Other than that you don't have a bad team, alot of 5 tool players which is good.
your everyday players are good and i see only 2 strong pitchers in sheets and haren so i would look for stronger pitchers. try and stay away from mid inning relivers. stick to starters and closers
Girlss or Guys...I need your advice??PLEASE?
Me and my girlfriend broke up about a month ago, and I've tried talking to her/to have some closure right before the break up, but she refused to, I feel that I made a mistake by not giving her space and time to think and she was upset even more. I havent been contacting her for a month now, we just finished school and we had some great plans for the summer. I was wondering if it would be a good idea to write her a letter over the summer in which I would explain that I became a better person and have learned alot from our relationship. I basically want her back, I'll do anything in my control. And explaining to her that my change and feelings are profound and real.
Please I need a good advice on this!!
ThanksGirlss or Guys...I need your advice??PLEASE?
It seems you actually want this babe back for summer; its not worth it.
But if you actually want her because you love her and want her back then call write and show her that you are actually a changed person.
Am sure she will accept you back
Good luckGirlss or Guys...I need your advice??PLEASE?
Do you think she's the one?
Do you see yourself getting married one day and having children?
Honestly?
If you dont, then give up.. she probally doesnt want you back, and your going to date LOADS off people until you find the perfect one.
Dont worry dude, plenty mroe fish in the sea (:
%26lt;3
When you write a woman a letter, your taking your time to write down your feelings and love for her...go for it. She'd be stunned.
just do sex with her and give him a kiss on his lips
Please I need a good advice on this!!
ThanksGirlss or Guys...I need your advice??PLEASE?
It seems you actually want this babe back for summer; its not worth it.
But if you actually want her because you love her and want her back then call write and show her that you are actually a changed person.
Am sure she will accept you back
Good luckGirlss or Guys...I need your advice??PLEASE?
Do you think she's the one?
Do you see yourself getting married one day and having children?
Honestly?
If you dont, then give up.. she probally doesnt want you back, and your going to date LOADS off people until you find the perfect one.
Dont worry dude, plenty mroe fish in the sea (:
%26lt;3
When you write a woman a letter, your taking your time to write down your feelings and love for her...go for it. She'd be stunned.
just do sex with her and give him a kiss on his lips
Ladies (and guys) I need some advice!?!?!?
This is for anyone who has:
-Been cheated on
-Cheated on someone
For those who have cheated:
What made you do it?
why were you in the position to cheat?
Why were you in the relationship in the first place?
For those who have been cheated on:
How do you get over it? and realize that not all men are the same (or are they?)
How do you trust again?
Heres my situation. My ex boyfriend and I decided to be together mutually, and after a few months he started showing signs of cheating, He wouldn't call, he'd go out and say he's coming over then turn his phone off, Constantly making plans with me then flopping with NO explanation at all. (i was stupid in this relationship and let everything slide, and that was my fault) Eventually we broke up and he confessed to me that he had indeed cheated on me, numerous times. I had strong feelings for this guy, and to be cheated on is probably one of the worst feelings especially when I had been so faithful.
I met this guy, and he's amazing, he's smart, funny, gorgeous, and the most important thing for me is that I feel comfortable with him, I did right away (just like how I felt when I met my ex).
Im not going to lie, im scared to death. I know that not all men are the same, and all that, but its so hard for me to trust again, I don't know if I ever will. How can I get through this? Should I talk to him? or will it scare him away? I never used to be this way, but I guess i don't trust my judgement, and don't trust my instincts, because in away i think psychologically my mind is automatically telling me that everyone I meet is a cheater, and will hurt me because of past expriences. How can I stop this and start trusting again?
thanks for taking the time to read!!Ladies (and guys) I need some advice!?!?!?
For those who have been cheated on:
How do you get over it? and realize that not all men are the same (or are they?)
they aren't. there is too many men in the world, for all to be the same. but there is definitely too many cheaters out there.
How do you trust again? sometimes, if it's that hard, you don't.
what i did was told myself this.
-I'm done thinking my life sucks, I'm done crying over this, I'm done thinking everything always has to go wrong no matter how hard i try.
-because, the one thing that sucked, was you. the only thing making me cry, was you. and the only thing that went wrong in my life, was you, no matter how hard i tried.
'you' was referring to the douche i was with.
i got cheated one twice by my boyfriend of two years.
first by a slut, second by my best friend.
but i was tellin myself there is more guys who wont make me think all those things.
theres also guys out there who want your trust. who deserve it.
maybe this guy does.
hope it helped. if not.
good luck.Ladies (and guys) I need some advice!?!?!?
You need a lesson on who a man really is. The feminine energy grows with fullness, praise, connection and love, to allow a kind of ';surrender'; in all kinds of joyful experiences. With sex, women surrender to the experience with a man through love and connection, which can make the man and woman as one. But the masculine energy doesn't work this way. At least not in the ';darker'; part of a man. The masculine energy is VERY different. The masculine energy seeks to break through challenges all alone and arrive at its desire - ';emptiness'; and ';freedom';, men often seek this physical challenge of sex as a goal unto itself, where they can break through to a temporary ';freedom';. A man will NEVER see you exactly the way you want him to see you, or value you exactly the way you know you should be valued or the way you are thinking presently! There's a drive in men that makes them want to be CHALLENGED... and to overcome that challenge. Men want to be challenged by the idea of meeting, attracting, and pursuing a woman. And then they want to win the woman over and feel stronger as a man for having done it.
Men deal with this in one of two ways:
1. They find more ';freedom'; and emptiness by physically being with a woman in the short term.
or
2. They find connection and love by physically AND emotionally being with the woman in a deeper and ';longer-term'; way.
Here's the AMAZING part... A woman helps him choose which it will be with her.
Interesting...The point is, men LOVE the chase. Some men might tell you that they don't. They do. Men love the chase and the challenge not in their ';logical'; minds, but down where it counts. They love it in their FEELINGS and EMOTIONS. It's part of their genetic make-up.
But if a woman loses control emotionally, seeks HIS APPROVAL or thinks she can trade sex to receive love before a man's experiencing an intense desire to WIN HER OVER and to be with her, then something bad happens !!
The man loses that feeling of excitement and challenge with her. He recognizes that the woman has already given over physical and emotional CONTROL to him. Which destroys the strongest ';lead-in'; to creating lasting love with a man.
However, not all men may behave in the same manner- have U made up ur mind ?? U have to make up your mind once and for all give a final ultamitum (if you are in two minds) and Move on ?
Good Luck%26gt;r
I was cheated on. Broke up with that guy and a few months later started dating another guy... and then I found out that he was engaged to a woman who lived in another state. So I ended that. The guy I'm seeing now understands how I feel because we talked about it before we started seeing each other. He went through some similar things with one of his exes. If I didn't talk to him about my problems I never would have realized the kind of guy he was.
I suggest you talk to the guy you are with. Don't make it sound like you're a nut job and he shouldn't run.
I never cheated, but I was cheated on. I was engaged to be married to ';mr. wonderful'; and it was bad enough that he told me he cheated on me, but he finally had to tell me because he got this girl pregnant, and she was quite a ways along. So here I am planning a wedding, and come to find out he got her pregnant and married her instead. It was nice of him to wait until I gave him a brand new tv for christmas though before he told me. I don't trust anyone, I have a very extensive lessons learned file. I did get married a few years later, and while I have been married over 20 years, it has not been a happy marriage. It is not my husband so much as it is his family. We took marriage courses through the base. I am a bad judge of character so I knew I would take marriage classes no matter who I married. My problem is that I can't keep his family from causing problems in the marriage. If I had my life to do over, I would not have gotten married, not so much because of my husband, but because of the in laws. You can't make this guy pay for the other guys mistakes, but you also have to keep your eyes open and protect your heart. You have to do what is best for you. These days there are back ground checks but there are not written guarantees. The marriage classes showed me that if I had married ';mr. wonderful'; I would have been making a huge mistake, but my husband and I had a lot in common. The thing that marriage classes didn't do for me was warn me about in laws. I guess you have to trust a little at a time.
Just go with the new guy. Don't tell him about your previous bf until you have been with him for a while. Then talk to him and let him know your fears. If he is who you really want and he wants you this shouldn't be a problem. If it scares him off, well you have saved yourself getting so involved that you had started to live together, or married. Most of all, trust him until he gives you a reason not to.
I have never had a girlfriend in my life to cheat or to get cheated.
And I think you should take time off to understand whether this person will do the same thing or not. I mean if you are not girlfriend/boyfriends with each other, then just be his friend and you will understand yourself. Wait,if you have to, one month, 1/2 year or even an year, because eventually it will end up in a search for a life partner.
And life is certainly bigger than 1 or 2 or even 10 years.
And I have a belief that the search for a life partner should be made with as much patience as much you have for taking life decisions.
First of all, good that you know that not all men are the same. But, I agree that not all decisions we make are correct just like the previous one which was letting yourself fall in love with a cheater. I know that controlling feelings is usually hard, but you'll get over it if you tried and were determind. Besides, this guy seems sweet, but instead of hurrying up, take your time, get to know him well, and see if that thing will work out or not. May be it'll end up well. But **Communication** solves problems. Talk with that guy right now until you're 110% that this guy is better than your ex ( You know, instead of falling in the same trap twice, we have to learn from our mistakes ) And btw, you really don't wanna waste your life not trusting people. We almost saw nothing from life, yet. So, enjoy the coming moments and be normal again. Hope I helped..Good luck! =)
-Been cheated on
-Cheated on someone
For those who have cheated:
What made you do it?
why were you in the position to cheat?
Why were you in the relationship in the first place?
For those who have been cheated on:
How do you get over it? and realize that not all men are the same (or are they?)
How do you trust again?
Heres my situation. My ex boyfriend and I decided to be together mutually, and after a few months he started showing signs of cheating, He wouldn't call, he'd go out and say he's coming over then turn his phone off, Constantly making plans with me then flopping with NO explanation at all. (i was stupid in this relationship and let everything slide, and that was my fault) Eventually we broke up and he confessed to me that he had indeed cheated on me, numerous times. I had strong feelings for this guy, and to be cheated on is probably one of the worst feelings especially when I had been so faithful.
I met this guy, and he's amazing, he's smart, funny, gorgeous, and the most important thing for me is that I feel comfortable with him, I did right away (just like how I felt when I met my ex).
Im not going to lie, im scared to death. I know that not all men are the same, and all that, but its so hard for me to trust again, I don't know if I ever will. How can I get through this? Should I talk to him? or will it scare him away? I never used to be this way, but I guess i don't trust my judgement, and don't trust my instincts, because in away i think psychologically my mind is automatically telling me that everyone I meet is a cheater, and will hurt me because of past expriences. How can I stop this and start trusting again?
thanks for taking the time to read!!Ladies (and guys) I need some advice!?!?!?
For those who have been cheated on:
How do you get over it? and realize that not all men are the same (or are they?)
they aren't. there is too many men in the world, for all to be the same. but there is definitely too many cheaters out there.
How do you trust again? sometimes, if it's that hard, you don't.
what i did was told myself this.
-I'm done thinking my life sucks, I'm done crying over this, I'm done thinking everything always has to go wrong no matter how hard i try.
-because, the one thing that sucked, was you. the only thing making me cry, was you. and the only thing that went wrong in my life, was you, no matter how hard i tried.
'you' was referring to the douche i was with.
i got cheated one twice by my boyfriend of two years.
first by a slut, second by my best friend.
but i was tellin myself there is more guys who wont make me think all those things.
theres also guys out there who want your trust. who deserve it.
maybe this guy does.
hope it helped. if not.
good luck.Ladies (and guys) I need some advice!?!?!?
You need a lesson on who a man really is. The feminine energy grows with fullness, praise, connection and love, to allow a kind of ';surrender'; in all kinds of joyful experiences. With sex, women surrender to the experience with a man through love and connection, which can make the man and woman as one. But the masculine energy doesn't work this way. At least not in the ';darker'; part of a man. The masculine energy is VERY different. The masculine energy seeks to break through challenges all alone and arrive at its desire - ';emptiness'; and ';freedom';, men often seek this physical challenge of sex as a goal unto itself, where they can break through to a temporary ';freedom';. A man will NEVER see you exactly the way you want him to see you, or value you exactly the way you know you should be valued or the way you are thinking presently! There's a drive in men that makes them want to be CHALLENGED... and to overcome that challenge. Men want to be challenged by the idea of meeting, attracting, and pursuing a woman. And then they want to win the woman over and feel stronger as a man for having done it.
Men deal with this in one of two ways:
1. They find more ';freedom'; and emptiness by physically being with a woman in the short term.
or
2. They find connection and love by physically AND emotionally being with the woman in a deeper and ';longer-term'; way.
Here's the AMAZING part... A woman helps him choose which it will be with her.
Interesting...The point is, men LOVE the chase. Some men might tell you that they don't. They do. Men love the chase and the challenge not in their ';logical'; minds, but down where it counts. They love it in their FEELINGS and EMOTIONS. It's part of their genetic make-up.
But if a woman loses control emotionally, seeks HIS APPROVAL or thinks she can trade sex to receive love before a man's experiencing an intense desire to WIN HER OVER and to be with her, then something bad happens !!
The man loses that feeling of excitement and challenge with her. He recognizes that the woman has already given over physical and emotional CONTROL to him. Which destroys the strongest ';lead-in'; to creating lasting love with a man.
However, not all men may behave in the same manner- have U made up ur mind ?? U have to make up your mind once and for all give a final ultamitum (if you are in two minds) and Move on ?
Good Luck%26gt;r
I was cheated on. Broke up with that guy and a few months later started dating another guy... and then I found out that he was engaged to a woman who lived in another state. So I ended that. The guy I'm seeing now understands how I feel because we talked about it before we started seeing each other. He went through some similar things with one of his exes. If I didn't talk to him about my problems I never would have realized the kind of guy he was.
I suggest you talk to the guy you are with. Don't make it sound like you're a nut job and he shouldn't run.
I never cheated, but I was cheated on. I was engaged to be married to ';mr. wonderful'; and it was bad enough that he told me he cheated on me, but he finally had to tell me because he got this girl pregnant, and she was quite a ways along. So here I am planning a wedding, and come to find out he got her pregnant and married her instead. It was nice of him to wait until I gave him a brand new tv for christmas though before he told me. I don't trust anyone, I have a very extensive lessons learned file. I did get married a few years later, and while I have been married over 20 years, it has not been a happy marriage. It is not my husband so much as it is his family. We took marriage courses through the base. I am a bad judge of character so I knew I would take marriage classes no matter who I married. My problem is that I can't keep his family from causing problems in the marriage. If I had my life to do over, I would not have gotten married, not so much because of my husband, but because of the in laws. You can't make this guy pay for the other guys mistakes, but you also have to keep your eyes open and protect your heart. You have to do what is best for you. These days there are back ground checks but there are not written guarantees. The marriage classes showed me that if I had married ';mr. wonderful'; I would have been making a huge mistake, but my husband and I had a lot in common. The thing that marriage classes didn't do for me was warn me about in laws. I guess you have to trust a little at a time.
Just go with the new guy. Don't tell him about your previous bf until you have been with him for a while. Then talk to him and let him know your fears. If he is who you really want and he wants you this shouldn't be a problem. If it scares him off, well you have saved yourself getting so involved that you had started to live together, or married. Most of all, trust him until he gives you a reason not to.
I have never had a girlfriend in my life to cheat or to get cheated.
And I think you should take time off to understand whether this person will do the same thing or not. I mean if you are not girlfriend/boyfriends with each other, then just be his friend and you will understand yourself. Wait,if you have to, one month, 1/2 year or even an year, because eventually it will end up in a search for a life partner.
And life is certainly bigger than 1 or 2 or even 10 years.
And I have a belief that the search for a life partner should be made with as much patience as much you have for taking life decisions.
First of all, good that you know that not all men are the same. But, I agree that not all decisions we make are correct just like the previous one which was letting yourself fall in love with a cheater. I know that controlling feelings is usually hard, but you'll get over it if you tried and were determind. Besides, this guy seems sweet, but instead of hurrying up, take your time, get to know him well, and see if that thing will work out or not. May be it'll end up well. But **Communication** solves problems. Talk with that guy right now until you're 110% that this guy is better than your ex ( You know, instead of falling in the same trap twice, we have to learn from our mistakes ) And btw, you really don't wanna waste your life not trusting people. We almost saw nothing from life, yet. So, enjoy the coming moments and be normal again. Hope I helped..Good luck! =)
Can you guys give me some advice please?
i met her online, about 8 months ago. she is single and i do know that for a fact, she still has pics of her ex(who she dated for sometime) on her fb and its nothing too risque. she also really close to her family, so i don't expect her to cut off ties with them. but she says they argue a lot and it makes me really upset. when she tells me this i just say ';oh'; and try to change the subject. i do have feelings for her, but we have only met in person once and that was a month after we started talking. so that led me to believe that she wanted to only be friends. but she tells me that she wants to fix me dinner one day and one time we were joking around about having kids and i said i'd rather adopt one. she said i'll support you 100%. so i am so confused. i want to tell her that i feel some type of way about her, but i just don't know where her mind is.Can you guys give me some advice please?
The two of you should probably meet each in other face-to-face in public at least a few more times before you decide whether or not to pursue a serious relationship with her.
Let her know that you want to be friends with her, and you're there for her if she needs you. Then go from there. If she wants to talk to you about her family problems (or any other issues she has going on in her life), let her talk to you about them, and comfort her as best you can. Also, encourage her to live her life to the fullest and follow her own dreams. If she continues to support your goals in life, and comforts you when you're feeling down and out, then you'll know she cares about you as well.
If the two of you remain good friends with each other, that's great. If your friendship develops into a serious romance, that's even better. But if your relationship with her fizzles out, then at least you'll know that she wasn't your ';Ms. Right,'; and you can focus on finding the woman who is.
Good luck, my friend!Can you guys give me some advice please?
nothing ventured, nothing gained. take the risk.
If you ever decide to meet this person, make sure it is in a very public place.
Life is hard.
The two of you should probably meet each in other face-to-face in public at least a few more times before you decide whether or not to pursue a serious relationship with her.
Let her know that you want to be friends with her, and you're there for her if she needs you. Then go from there. If she wants to talk to you about her family problems (or any other issues she has going on in her life), let her talk to you about them, and comfort her as best you can. Also, encourage her to live her life to the fullest and follow her own dreams. If she continues to support your goals in life, and comforts you when you're feeling down and out, then you'll know she cares about you as well.
If the two of you remain good friends with each other, that's great. If your friendship develops into a serious romance, that's even better. But if your relationship with her fizzles out, then at least you'll know that she wasn't your ';Ms. Right,'; and you can focus on finding the woman who is.
Good luck, my friend!Can you guys give me some advice please?
nothing ventured, nothing gained. take the risk.
If you ever decide to meet this person, make sure it is in a very public place.
Life is hard.
Guys and girls need advice?
okay so ive liked this guy for 2 years and i like him a lot and idk how he feels about me but everyday i see him at his locker when im at mine there like right next to each other and whenever i see him my mind goes blank and i cant think of anything to talk to him about and sometimes hell like poke me in the side and he knows it makes me laugh and sometimes he wont idk if this is flirting or not but hes soo shy he like never talks to me all he does is smile at me and i thought about telling him i like him but someone said it makes the guy lust for you instead of want you what do i doo!Guys and girls need advice?
show your ****, if he looks he likes youGuys and girls need advice?
I don't really think you should tell him you like him unless he was to say it first.
Just flirt and text him sometime:)
girl u gota flirt flirt flirt
show your ****, if he looks he likes youGuys and girls need advice?
I don't really think you should tell him you like him unless he was to say it first.
Just flirt and text him sometime:)
girl u gota flirt flirt flirt
Adults only! guys going down. need advice to tell my bf what to do!?
Me and my bf have been together a little over a year and he told me that he used to do this to his ex all the time. But when he does it to me I guess it just isn't the way I like it. I know this is a little much into detail but this is the only way I can get an honest answer. When he's down there I want him to play with my c*** but he doesn't do that. How do I let him know what I really want without bothering him. I used to love my ex doing this but now with him I don't really get off on it. Please give me some advie to suddlely let him know?Adults only! guys going down. need advice to tell my bf what to do!?
Open communication is the key to sexual pleasure. I know it is harder at a young age, but as I've gotten older, I really listen to what my partner is saying. Through body movement, and sounds. But I do also ask questions about what she likes. Talk to your man and let him know exactly what is working for you. I am sure he is more than willing to listen and do what ever it takes to satisfy you.Adults only! guys going down. need advice to tell my bf what to do!?
Next time just tell him to stop what he is doing and do what you say. Then tell him what you really want him to do. Once he does it and realizes how much better that feels for you, he will be happy that you told him what to do. Remember, when it comes to sex, there is no right or wrong. You just have to try stuff and then not be afraid to say what you like and what you don't like.
just tell him, honestly there isn't really an easy way to do this...
explain you aren't getting anything out of it and ask him to ';explore'; a bit more than he already does... ask him to go to different places... so when he hits the right spot... moan or make a sound that lets him know he's doing a good job...
just explain him how you want it.. show the area.. looks like you two are pretty opened with this, so.. why can't you spell it out? Guide him more, until he does it as you want.
You simply tell him verbally, or put his mouth where you want it...COMMUNICATE. He can't know if you don't tell him and then you just keep getting more of the same unsatisfying activity.
Use your mouth and tell him. I would rather get a little advice than to keep doing something that was lame.
Just tell him what you like.
he can't give you what u want if he doesn't know EXACTLY what it is u want! TELL HIM!
Open communication is the key to sexual pleasure. I know it is harder at a young age, but as I've gotten older, I really listen to what my partner is saying. Through body movement, and sounds. But I do also ask questions about what she likes. Talk to your man and let him know exactly what is working for you. I am sure he is more than willing to listen and do what ever it takes to satisfy you.Adults only! guys going down. need advice to tell my bf what to do!?
Next time just tell him to stop what he is doing and do what you say. Then tell him what you really want him to do. Once he does it and realizes how much better that feels for you, he will be happy that you told him what to do. Remember, when it comes to sex, there is no right or wrong. You just have to try stuff and then not be afraid to say what you like and what you don't like.
just tell him, honestly there isn't really an easy way to do this...
explain you aren't getting anything out of it and ask him to ';explore'; a bit more than he already does... ask him to go to different places... so when he hits the right spot... moan or make a sound that lets him know he's doing a good job...
just explain him how you want it.. show the area.. looks like you two are pretty opened with this, so.. why can't you spell it out? Guide him more, until he does it as you want.
You simply tell him verbally, or put his mouth where you want it...COMMUNICATE. He can't know if you don't tell him and then you just keep getting more of the same unsatisfying activity.
Use your mouth and tell him. I would rather get a little advice than to keep doing something that was lame.
Just tell him what you like.
he can't give you what u want if he doesn't know EXACTLY what it is u want! TELL HIM!
Can you guys give me some advice, my family and I are confused?
Please, read all of this. I know it might be long but I really need you to read all of it to answer my question completely.
In elementary school I had several crushes on girls. In middle school I had girlfriends. It was around 7th grade, though, that I knew that I was gay - or at least that I was attracted to guys. I've never had any relationship with a guy, never had anything sexual or physical with a guy (nor a girl, except kissing I guess haha). Anyway, a few days ago my parents saw on my computer in the History that I had been searching on youtube about ways to come out of the closet, etc. They asked me about it and I was so shocked and confused, it felt like I was in a dream or something. They told me that they would support me, but also they were saying things like 'it's just a phase', and that 'I need to give girls a second chance', and that 'I know we can get past this', etc. My mom woke me up because she was crying and said that she didn't want me to be gay and that she 'didn't want to lose me'. My family is Christian and they're concerned about my salvation, etc. I'm afraid because they are asking me to suppress these feelings for ANOTHER year and try to revert my thoughts to girls. They just don't seem to understand that I've been doing that for a very long time. I've prayed and prayed about it, because for a long time I didn't want to be gay. But just as I accepted it, my family goes a little psycho. I completely understand, and yet I don't. They are setting me up with a ';Family First'; counselor to talk about it. I'm afraid because I've heard from so many people that these little counseling sessions can really cause psychological damage. My dad was saying that he doesn't want me to go down this path, and that it will ruin my reputation (President of Student council 3 years in a row, awesome student, good Christian). He told me that it's eating them up inside. What am I supposed to do? I told him I didn't choose to be this way. He then gave me an example of my ex-uncle who was attracted to 8 year old girls (true story), and claimed that he was born that way. I'm just really getting angry inside because my parents think that I just woke up one morning and decided to be gay. My dad says that there really aren't any gay Christians and that all of them are degenerates. No gays are actually happy, they're confused and want to make more people gay so that they can feel satisfaction in knowing that they aren't the only ones confused. I'm angry inside that he could think that. He was like ';promise me, noah that you'll put in an honest effort to get over this';. I told him I HAVE BEEN TRYING. I'm angry/confused inside. Please, whatever advice you can give, please give it. It would help a ton. Thanks everyone.
noahCan you guys give me some advice, my family and I are confused?
Hey, Noah.
I'm so sorry to hear about this. You're in a really tough spot, and your parents - who should be supporting you - are trying to get you to suppress who you are, and deny your sexuality.
I don't have any good advice for you, although I'll tell you that when I first came out, my mom - who is not religious at all - told me that I probably wasn't sure what I was doing, and told me that it was going to tear her life apart and would be so hard for her if I was gay. She didn't even know what bisexual was, and claimed that I was making it up.
I found a few websites for you to try, and maybe show to your parents. You're certainly not the only gay Christian! :) I'm so sorry about this, and I know it's heartbreaking when your parents act as though they don't love you for who you are. If you find your local PFLAG - http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid鈥?/a> - by finding a chapter near you, they might be able to offer support for you and your parents, and even provide a few things for you to read and for your parents to read about homosexuality.
I have one more thing - these videos are great (related to being gay and the bible), my GSA loves them. Keep your spirits up, noah, and good luck with everything.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5-zhNiGlo鈥?/a>
http://www.funnyordie.com/videos/c0cf508鈥?/a>Can you guys give me some advice, my family and I are confused?
Pretend to be magically cured by Jesus so they'll leave you alone, but you can be openly gay around others. And remember to always delete your history.
Please learn how to use paragraphs before posting.
Just tell everyone that your not gay especialy the therapist dude
And it will not ruin your reputation it's stupid that people beleive that being gay is a bad thing. Just tell everyone that your straight during the day and sneak guys through your bedroom window at night.
You are definitely in a tough position right now and I think you are going to be having more and more conversations with your parents in order to explain and express what you are feeling. Just remember that it's going to take some time for them to really and truly accept this. Just as it has taken you a lot of time to process your own feeling and :';come out'; to yourself. Parents have to go through a coming out process also, so try to be patient.
But, you have to be open and honest about how you feel in order for them to understand that this is not a phase or soemthing that will go away.
If you really want an answer to a question in YA, then you have to figure out what you want to say beforehand, then sit down and express yourself logically. It is important to use good grammar, and also to paragraph your question when it is as long as what you have written here.
If you don't do that, then most people will simply ignore it.
Wow. I'm sorry. I would think that, as Christians, they would accept you no matter what. God didn't say people are born straight. I'm a Christian and I'm gay. I didn't want to be gay to begin with either, and I thought it might be because I had had a bad breakup with a girl, but the more I thought about it, the more I knew. Just like you said. I prayed about it, but nothing changed. I hope you can convince them that you didn't just 'decide' to be gay. Good luck.
Your parents are doing what they think is best for you, the only problem is wha't best for you and what's best for them are two different things and everybody gay, straight or bi can relate to this.
Your parents need to be educated and by that I suggest you give them a bone and say you'll all go to counseling so long as you get to pick the counselor. And since you are agreeing to go to counseling they need to meet you half way and come with you to PFLAG meetings in your area if there are any. I don't know. Check this out.
http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid鈥?/a>
They simply don't understand; my parents didn't either. They need reading material, they need to talk to other parents who have gay and lesbian kids to see that it's not just them, it's not a phase and it's not bad.
Spiritually, I am not christian or of any religious faith. But I do respect the fact that you do so...check out this site too:
http://gaychristian.net/
Best of luck to you Noah. Remember, ';I am therefore I am'; doesn't just apply to God.
Noah, What you ask is an age old question. I myself have faced your dilemma all my life. It hasn't been all that easy and there has been some really extra ordinary times. If you e-mail me privately I will do my best to be a friend with no strings attached and no BS. There are answers but no one particular answer for any one particular person. Write me. because there is hope and you are not alone.
hey PLEASE feel free to email me anytime at bluemew88888@yahoo.com i know exactly how you feel except i didn't have girlfriends. what ever you do don't suppress your feelings and don't try and be something your not. brother you have a bigger family that will accept you with Jesus/God being the father and us being your brothers and sisters. when you read the new testament it tells you that jesus did not come to bring peace but to set family at variance with one another father against son and son against father and so on. being gay to my beliefs is not a sin don't listen to those who tell you other wise. there is a site i recommend for you www.gaychristian101.com and you should email rev rick.
Noah, I can understand the situation you're going through very well. My mother feels the same about Christianity and homosexuality. She told me time and again that I was only going through a phase. She cried and told me that I was too young to make this 'decision'. She even kicked me out of her house on several occasions. She went through my diary and threw me out because I wrote about my feelings. I did my best to hide it around other people so I wouldn't embarrass my mother. But it is painful and dangerous to be forced to keep such a big secret. It can kill people. The truth is that some people are taught to fear and hate things that they cannot personally feel or relate to. Just as many older citizens today can remember the hostility and hate once felt towards others because of skin color, this generation feels the hate towards people who deviate from the Adam and Eve image. I believe that God loves his creatures no matter what. He made us all equally different. He painted the picture of life and love with ALL of his children, including you. This was not a decision you made, it's just the path that God has led your heart down. He will welcome you with open arms if you still love him. Your parents need to understand that this rejection of your feelings is wrong. God loves and accepts all and asks that his children be like him in that manner. Pray for God to bless your parents with the grace to see you through a difficult time in your life. You are never alone. Aside from God there are many people to talk to if you ever feel trapped or afraid. I'm available if you have questions and there is a grand place for you in this world, so don't forget it.
';My dad says that there really aren't any gay Christians and that all of them are degenerates. No gays are actually happy, they're confused and want to make more people gay so that they can feel satisfaction in knowing that they aren't the only ones confused.';
That stretch there made my sick to my stomach. Who is he to judge? Does he know your heart? Can he see inside to the soul of man? NO. Only Jesus Christ can do that and He is the ONLY one that matters. Believe it or not, there ARE Christians out there who are NOT so close minded. Even IF it is a sin and wrong and all that, I am still not the one to judge. I love and accept anyone who does the same. Know what I mean?
Anyway, first of all, sucks to have it happen like that. Life is great like that. If your parents are close minded on the salvation aspect of it, they probably also think that you'll never have a family, they'll never have grandkids, you'll die of aids at 35, and will actually someday be a crossdresser or transexual. I bet it is a cumulation of all those fears that makes it so incredibly hard for them. Have you talked about these issues to try and dispel the fears? It might help a little...
You have a choice here. You can go along with what they are asking you to do in order to a) keep/make peace and b) show that you're willing to try things their way. If at the end of the year, things have not changed, you have done what they wanted and they need to leave it alone. You will have to play the game for that year, but is it worth that year to try and salvage a future relationship with your folks? On the other hand, you could decide that you know who you are and you can't sink yourself to that level to appease anyone, even your parents. You will likely have a maaaajjjooorrr conflict in the home and your relationship may never heal, BUT you will be able to live knowing you were true to yourself on this. You need to decide which is more important to you.
The fact is that by choice or by birth, you are not ';normal'; to a lot of people. When you come out, you will be rejected by some and accepted by others. Your entire life will be pretty much tossed into a blender and it'll be up to you to make sense of what's left when it all stops spinning. Set your priorities now as to what's MOST important. Sometimes in life we have to sacrifice things of lower importance to keep the things that are REALLY super important. I know I have. And in a way, it's good because it forces you to figure yourself out and really learn who you are and what you want from life. The sooner you figure it out, the easier, but that's not how it works.
Above all, self examine. Don't let a counselor or your family or your friends get into your head and screw with you. Open yourself up to ideas, but don't give anyone full control of your mind and life. That is YOUR space. Good luck, man.
In elementary school I had several crushes on girls. In middle school I had girlfriends. It was around 7th grade, though, that I knew that I was gay - or at least that I was attracted to guys. I've never had any relationship with a guy, never had anything sexual or physical with a guy (nor a girl, except kissing I guess haha). Anyway, a few days ago my parents saw on my computer in the History that I had been searching on youtube about ways to come out of the closet, etc. They asked me about it and I was so shocked and confused, it felt like I was in a dream or something. They told me that they would support me, but also they were saying things like 'it's just a phase', and that 'I need to give girls a second chance', and that 'I know we can get past this', etc. My mom woke me up because she was crying and said that she didn't want me to be gay and that she 'didn't want to lose me'. My family is Christian and they're concerned about my salvation, etc. I'm afraid because they are asking me to suppress these feelings for ANOTHER year and try to revert my thoughts to girls. They just don't seem to understand that I've been doing that for a very long time. I've prayed and prayed about it, because for a long time I didn't want to be gay. But just as I accepted it, my family goes a little psycho. I completely understand, and yet I don't. They are setting me up with a ';Family First'; counselor to talk about it. I'm afraid because I've heard from so many people that these little counseling sessions can really cause psychological damage. My dad was saying that he doesn't want me to go down this path, and that it will ruin my reputation (President of Student council 3 years in a row, awesome student, good Christian). He told me that it's eating them up inside. What am I supposed to do? I told him I didn't choose to be this way. He then gave me an example of my ex-uncle who was attracted to 8 year old girls (true story), and claimed that he was born that way. I'm just really getting angry inside because my parents think that I just woke up one morning and decided to be gay. My dad says that there really aren't any gay Christians and that all of them are degenerates. No gays are actually happy, they're confused and want to make more people gay so that they can feel satisfaction in knowing that they aren't the only ones confused. I'm angry inside that he could think that. He was like ';promise me, noah that you'll put in an honest effort to get over this';. I told him I HAVE BEEN TRYING. I'm angry/confused inside. Please, whatever advice you can give, please give it. It would help a ton. Thanks everyone.
noahCan you guys give me some advice, my family and I are confused?
Hey, Noah.
I'm so sorry to hear about this. You're in a really tough spot, and your parents - who should be supporting you - are trying to get you to suppress who you are, and deny your sexuality.
I don't have any good advice for you, although I'll tell you that when I first came out, my mom - who is not religious at all - told me that I probably wasn't sure what I was doing, and told me that it was going to tear her life apart and would be so hard for her if I was gay. She didn't even know what bisexual was, and claimed that I was making it up.
I found a few websites for you to try, and maybe show to your parents. You're certainly not the only gay Christian! :) I'm so sorry about this, and I know it's heartbreaking when your parents act as though they don't love you for who you are. If you find your local PFLAG - http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid鈥?/a> - by finding a chapter near you, they might be able to offer support for you and your parents, and even provide a few things for you to read and for your parents to read about homosexuality.
I have one more thing - these videos are great (related to being gay and the bible), my GSA loves them. Keep your spirits up, noah, and good luck with everything.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5-zhNiGlo鈥?/a>
http://www.funnyordie.com/videos/c0cf508鈥?/a>Can you guys give me some advice, my family and I are confused?
Pretend to be magically cured by Jesus so they'll leave you alone, but you can be openly gay around others. And remember to always delete your history.
Please learn how to use paragraphs before posting.
Just tell everyone that your not gay especialy the therapist dude
And it will not ruin your reputation it's stupid that people beleive that being gay is a bad thing. Just tell everyone that your straight during the day and sneak guys through your bedroom window at night.
You are definitely in a tough position right now and I think you are going to be having more and more conversations with your parents in order to explain and express what you are feeling. Just remember that it's going to take some time for them to really and truly accept this. Just as it has taken you a lot of time to process your own feeling and :';come out'; to yourself. Parents have to go through a coming out process also, so try to be patient.
But, you have to be open and honest about how you feel in order for them to understand that this is not a phase or soemthing that will go away.
If you really want an answer to a question in YA, then you have to figure out what you want to say beforehand, then sit down and express yourself logically. It is important to use good grammar, and also to paragraph your question when it is as long as what you have written here.
If you don't do that, then most people will simply ignore it.
Wow. I'm sorry. I would think that, as Christians, they would accept you no matter what. God didn't say people are born straight. I'm a Christian and I'm gay. I didn't want to be gay to begin with either, and I thought it might be because I had had a bad breakup with a girl, but the more I thought about it, the more I knew. Just like you said. I prayed about it, but nothing changed. I hope you can convince them that you didn't just 'decide' to be gay. Good luck.
Your parents are doing what they think is best for you, the only problem is wha't best for you and what's best for them are two different things and everybody gay, straight or bi can relate to this.
Your parents need to be educated and by that I suggest you give them a bone and say you'll all go to counseling so long as you get to pick the counselor. And since you are agreeing to go to counseling they need to meet you half way and come with you to PFLAG meetings in your area if there are any. I don't know. Check this out.
http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid鈥?/a>
They simply don't understand; my parents didn't either. They need reading material, they need to talk to other parents who have gay and lesbian kids to see that it's not just them, it's not a phase and it's not bad.
Spiritually, I am not christian or of any religious faith. But I do respect the fact that you do so...check out this site too:
http://gaychristian.net/
Best of luck to you Noah. Remember, ';I am therefore I am'; doesn't just apply to God.
Noah, What you ask is an age old question. I myself have faced your dilemma all my life. It hasn't been all that easy and there has been some really extra ordinary times. If you e-mail me privately I will do my best to be a friend with no strings attached and no BS. There are answers but no one particular answer for any one particular person. Write me. because there is hope and you are not alone.
hey PLEASE feel free to email me anytime at bluemew88888@yahoo.com i know exactly how you feel except i didn't have girlfriends. what ever you do don't suppress your feelings and don't try and be something your not. brother you have a bigger family that will accept you with Jesus/God being the father and us being your brothers and sisters. when you read the new testament it tells you that jesus did not come to bring peace but to set family at variance with one another father against son and son against father and so on. being gay to my beliefs is not a sin don't listen to those who tell you other wise. there is a site i recommend for you www.gaychristian101.com and you should email rev rick.
Noah, I can understand the situation you're going through very well. My mother feels the same about Christianity and homosexuality. She told me time and again that I was only going through a phase. She cried and told me that I was too young to make this 'decision'. She even kicked me out of her house on several occasions. She went through my diary and threw me out because I wrote about my feelings. I did my best to hide it around other people so I wouldn't embarrass my mother. But it is painful and dangerous to be forced to keep such a big secret. It can kill people. The truth is that some people are taught to fear and hate things that they cannot personally feel or relate to. Just as many older citizens today can remember the hostility and hate once felt towards others because of skin color, this generation feels the hate towards people who deviate from the Adam and Eve image. I believe that God loves his creatures no matter what. He made us all equally different. He painted the picture of life and love with ALL of his children, including you. This was not a decision you made, it's just the path that God has led your heart down. He will welcome you with open arms if you still love him. Your parents need to understand that this rejection of your feelings is wrong. God loves and accepts all and asks that his children be like him in that manner. Pray for God to bless your parents with the grace to see you through a difficult time in your life. You are never alone. Aside from God there are many people to talk to if you ever feel trapped or afraid. I'm available if you have questions and there is a grand place for you in this world, so don't forget it.
';My dad says that there really aren't any gay Christians and that all of them are degenerates. No gays are actually happy, they're confused and want to make more people gay so that they can feel satisfaction in knowing that they aren't the only ones confused.';
That stretch there made my sick to my stomach. Who is he to judge? Does he know your heart? Can he see inside to the soul of man? NO. Only Jesus Christ can do that and He is the ONLY one that matters. Believe it or not, there ARE Christians out there who are NOT so close minded. Even IF it is a sin and wrong and all that, I am still not the one to judge. I love and accept anyone who does the same. Know what I mean?
Anyway, first of all, sucks to have it happen like that. Life is great like that. If your parents are close minded on the salvation aspect of it, they probably also think that you'll never have a family, they'll never have grandkids, you'll die of aids at 35, and will actually someday be a crossdresser or transexual. I bet it is a cumulation of all those fears that makes it so incredibly hard for them. Have you talked about these issues to try and dispel the fears? It might help a little...
You have a choice here. You can go along with what they are asking you to do in order to a) keep/make peace and b) show that you're willing to try things their way. If at the end of the year, things have not changed, you have done what they wanted and they need to leave it alone. You will have to play the game for that year, but is it worth that year to try and salvage a future relationship with your folks? On the other hand, you could decide that you know who you are and you can't sink yourself to that level to appease anyone, even your parents. You will likely have a maaaajjjooorrr conflict in the home and your relationship may never heal, BUT you will be able to live knowing you were true to yourself on this. You need to decide which is more important to you.
The fact is that by choice or by birth, you are not ';normal'; to a lot of people. When you come out, you will be rejected by some and accepted by others. Your entire life will be pretty much tossed into a blender and it'll be up to you to make sense of what's left when it all stops spinning. Set your priorities now as to what's MOST important. Sometimes in life we have to sacrifice things of lower importance to keep the things that are REALLY super important. I know I have. And in a way, it's good because it forces you to figure yourself out and really learn who you are and what you want from life. The sooner you figure it out, the easier, but that's not how it works.
Above all, self examine. Don't let a counselor or your family or your friends get into your head and screw with you. Open yourself up to ideas, but don't give anyone full control of your mind and life. That is YOUR space. Good luck, man.
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