Guys i need ur advice.?

i ben with my bf for 3 yrs but i see him like 1 a month or sometimes more.


but we only have sex cuz my dad is strict so i dont have that much time.


We only hung out with eachother like 7 times in 3yrs! and it was akward


we dont really talk 2 eachother n we feel uncomfortable n we are not affectionate only in bed he is not me. hes nice he buys me things he says he loves me once in a while on the phone.


but why dosnt he talk to me in person?





why is he only affectionate in bed? sometimes hes not at all.





Wat does this mean?Guys i need ur advice.?
I think he's probably shy, everyone's a different person on the phone than in person, he needs more time to get close to you.


And in bed that's his thanggg. He's dominant and fearless there- cause he knows he's pleasuring his woman;) And if you guys talk on the phone alot, then he's not cheating- being on the phone %26amp; being with another woman at the same time is very unlikely, but yah, he would be way more comfortable if you guys saw each other more.


Also, if you only saw him 7 times in the past 3 years, he's NOT in it for the sex. I think it's cute he wants to stay with you despite your strict dad :)Guys i need ur advice.?
What do you expect? 7 times in three years is not a relationship although I see why you want to think that it is. If you can't see a guy more frequently than that, you shouldn't even try to have a relationship.





Don't think that your time limitations are limitations to him. It gives him the opportunity to have other girlfriends.





But what about you? Do you find this satisfying? You are a casual sex partner. Don't you desire more? I guess it is awkward. You don't have the time to get to know each other. You should examine whether you have grounds to be sexually active with him.
This is REALLY clear.. I'm unsure as to why you don't understand it. You two obviously only have a sexual relationship and since you don't see each other that often, it's never grown to anything more. When he sees you, its pretty much guaranteed that you'll have sex, so why waste his time talking or getting close?





My best suggestion, either get used to having a purely physical relationship with no emotional connection, or find a guy can actually see you more than once a month and who can hold up a conversation without having to have sex first. Good luck
you skipped some steps in your relationship. You're doing this guy but you don't know that you like him or have much in common with him. Why not draw the line in bed for a little while and get to know him outside of bed as a person. Or, if he won't see you out on the street, you know he's ashamed of you and is just using your body. Good luck.
as a fellow guy, we are too lazy to be affectionate once we have the person we wanted. we're affectionate in bed because we kinda have to be, or else it would kill everything. but uhh i think if you're gonna date someone you should see them more than once a month. nevermind the fact that having sex with someone because you dont have much time with them, is kinda stupid. you arent gonna get anything but an orgasm from that.
I gotta be straightforward honest with you. You sound like his ';booty call'; girl.... if he's not made the effort to be with you on a more permanent basis after three years, and you're just having sex when he does come.... yeah....





If you don't want to believe me, stop having sex with him and see if he keeps coming.
It means he's just not that into you, he likes getting laid and thats it im really sorry to say this but it doesnt sound like your boyfriend and girlfriend it sounds like your fuc# buddies my advice enjoy the ride or get off now before you really get hurt.
you could just be a girl that he likes to go to in bed, but ask him why? and if you think it is BS then i would kinda dump him, but i really dont give good advice!
hes a player...if he only has time to see you that much than hes seeing other people. dump him. now. dont even get yourself in to this kind of mess.





he does NOT love you. trust me
it means that your relationship is absolutely not working out.


you don't seem to fit together.
He is only in it for the sex. Defs having sex behind your back.
sounds like there is nothing emotional there only physical sorry
either hes only in it for sex or hes messing with some other girl %26amp; hiding. talk to him abbout it good luck
WTF? 3 years? 7 Times? Not right
it means that he gets sex from you without the relationship.... Win for him... not so for you.
He is a man. It is as simple as that.
It means you have wasted 3 years of you life. Find a person who wants to be with you 24/7
talk 2 him to get more info out.
HE JUST WANTS SEX
hes not a good boyfriend... he loves your body
he may be very shy. just go over to his house and talk or invite him over for dinner etc.
sorry to say it but you're being used and abused.
dump him if your not into it then he's not into it
he's using you for sex. leave him.
he's using u for sex





break up





thats not even a true bf - sry





good luck
i would dump him if i were youu. honestly it sounds like he just wants sex! and who knows what he is doing behind your backk..


dump his assss you will find a better guy! :)


goodluckk!
i not sure what to tell u........but if u love him go 4 it and if u don't forget it and move on
Leave this guy fast. I know this type of man because I was like that when I was in college. He is only with you for sex. It sounds like you have low self-esteem just from how you seem to be perceiving this whole relationship.





Someone who had more respect for themselves would demand more from a guy then just having sex when he feels like it. I am not sure how old you are but you sound young. You need to be focused on one thing and that is school.





Ask yourself these questions. What do you want out of a relationship? Are you getting that out of this relationship? Or are you simply holding onto a fantasy of what you want and hoping that eventually he will fulfill what you are looking for.





sounds like to me that you are in denial about a lot of things.





I would say stop the sex for a while, tell him exactly what you just typed above and see how he responds. Then see if he still comes around. If he doesn't then you know that was all he was after. If a guy is really into you he wont stopp calling just becuase you want to chill with out sex for awhile because you were feeling uncomfortable. A guy that likes you will be considerate of your feelings too.





Hope that helps.
what kind of man is he??


hMmm . maybe he is not just an expressive type most of the time thats why .. in bed only?? hMm ,maybe he has his reasons.. the both of you is on your 3rd year ryt?? both of you should be open with each others feelings and attitude same thing with the ';sex behaviour'; . .


try ro talk to him most of the times ..lovers should have an intimate relationship .. your should be ;like bestfriends that talking and telling everything with each other ,.0_o,