Help with ex?(guys or anyone with advice)?

Ohkay, my ex is dating another girl. I didn't know this until i started texting him. She found out and doesn't want him talking to me. This is where i get lost... He continues to text me when she isn't around(Our relationship ended with me dumping him while i was at a party drunk and with a guy i liked so obviously he was really really upset forever, honestly i felt terrible and all he did was try to make it better and i pushed him away because i felt terrible but i hid it...now i regret it and he knows that.) while he is texting me he asks me questions like ';Are you sorry, foreal?'; ( i spill it out of course) and asked how i feel about him(i answered again). The next day he texts me and tells me his girlfriend seen those texts and was crying, then asked if he could call me. We talked.... for a while. He hasn't texted me, so i guess hes with her. What am i supposed to do?/think anymore? I Love him, but i feel too vulnerable though he is responding in a good way, That makes me think he wants me back but im not sure??? any helpHelp with ex?(guys or anyone with advice)?
You are a terrible person.Help with ex?(guys or anyone with advice)?
kick him to the curb, find a better dude
He is playing both of you.





Forget him fast.
You broke up with him, because you were drunk at a party with a guy? Sounds like you lost him. Quit ruining the relationship he has with your drama.
tell him that you whant him back that ***** aint doin him any favors
Honestly, he may have been upset for a little while but now he may be playing for attention. Thats just my opinion because honestly, I did the same thing but I ended back with my girl deeply in love. Oh, and tell his current gf if she doesnt like you to get over it. You had him first. Hope I helped
Get on with your life.
Sorry, but this relationship is over. You will never trust each other and you dont really want him all that much anyway. Normally the truth comes out when a person is drunk, you didnt want him remember? Move on dear.
Well obviously he still has feelings for you. Make sure he knows you still have feelings for him...
DUH!!! he is trying to play u!!!! but if he really loved u then he would not be going out with another girl. LEAVE him!!!!! :)))
Ive been in this situation, he obviously still cares about u and u him. but u have done him wrong and i dont know him but will he be able to get over how u wronged him b4. Besides that why restart a relationship with drama. if u look at it in its simplest form, if u just leave him alone and stop talking to him nothing bad can come of it. however if u do pursue it, is it really worth the heartache and misery u both will have to endure before u can truely say u are happy with one another. U both love each other and u both always will, but u need to know that there is a difference in loving and being in love. make sure u know that difference to its fullest extent before u try anything with this boy. If you truly care about him let him be for the time and if things dont work out with his current gf, then try. Otherwise spare the other girl heartache for now and spare yourself a headache.
Give him some sex, see how he feels after that. When you sex him you have the power, then you can negotiate on your terms. Or kick him to the curb and find a better piece.
You know if he is texting you it really is his problem with his girlfriend. And if you really love him i wouldn't break connection. His girlfriend is really immature for telling him not to talk to you because you are none of her business. As long as you don't go and just take him from her and start being all flirty i wouldn't see why you couldn't talk. What i did when the person i loved most was with another guy i just kept holding on. Now she is with me and I'm loving life. So if you think she isn't the right one for him just hold on. I know most people will say the opposite nut i say keep your love there is nothing stronger.
The fact that he didn't cut ties with you is huge.. he is wanting to call you and talk things over rather than text back and forth.. keep in mind that verbal communication is a difficult thing to achieve after a tough breakup. Texting may be easy, but it takes a lot more to speak to someone. I'd give him lots of props for that.





It sounds like he still cares for you a lot but is with someone now he cares about as well. If his girlfriend was crying then maybe she felt unsure about who he truly cared about. Personally, I think the best advice you can give your ex is to talk to his current girlfriend to establish the fact that you two are friends. Otherwise she will think he's cheating every time she sees a text from you. If she's uncomfortable with him being friends with you then maybe she's just too insecure and shouldn't be in a relationship when needed trust can't be established.





Definitely stay friends with him. If you and him feel so strongly for each other then things should work themselves out. I know it might be personal, but knowing how your conversation with him on the phone went would help a lot in trying to figure out what's going through his mind.
I think you should stop being so selfish and think about how you would feel if you was the other girl in this story.
keep pursuing him he obviously likes you better because he risked his relationship with his girlfriend by texting u stuff like that...keep telling him how you feel...give him a little power and he'll come back like a little puppy thinking that he made you confess and be sorry about your mistakes while it's really you ******* with him...get it?
First off Good Luck with this situation!


Second I think that he does still like you but that he likes her to and he is probably going to try to think of a easy way to let her down with out her getting to upset over anything. She seems like a drama queen herself so that might hard but I am pretty sure that he still likes you and that he is going to do whatever he can to get back with you!


Oh and he is an idiot for not deleting his messages!


Hope that this helped some!
You gotta a little chaos in your life. You may really desire this guy right now, but you got to stop lying to yourself by saying you are in love with him. You dumped him at a party trying to pick up another guy. If nothing else, if you had your ideal man, he would not be it. Also, you started texting him again. So you were trying to draw him back into your life, but if you were willing to discard him at a party then you really aren't into him.





Here is my theory, you don't really like this guy but he gives you something you want very badly... attention. He cares for you but that isn't a big selling point because if he was still interested after the way you treated him he either has a few emotional issues to work out or is desperate (no desperate because he has a gf). He might be trying a revenge lay, but he doesn't sound like the type to me.





So let's be honest with ourselves. He likes you because he is a little nutty. Probably has a mom he has to take care of emotionally. And you are reaching for intimacy, reaching for someone to love you, someone to make you feel complete but once you get him, you lose interest.





The answer to your question has nothing to do with your question. You have to stop trying to 'win over' a guy you don't really have feelings for. You need to stop playing with this poor guys heart and start dealing with your own problems. If you want to stop longing, stop needing male attention, and start being happy just being yourself; you have to address what sent you down this path. These type of things do not go away on your own and will haunt you until you turn to face them.





I would expect an unstable relationship with your father, a history of sexual abuse and/or a family full of addicts. But even if you don't have those terrible traumas pushing you in this direction, I think you should get some counseling to address these unhealthy feelings you have towards men.





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You just wanted to 'upgrade' boyfriends and tried to ditch this guy. More of a guy move than a female move but I guess it happens. In that case, you live by the sword you die by the sword. You lose this guy and you just move on.





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No matter what is motivating you to have these unstable relationships. The simple fact remains that there is nothing you can do to make him like you more, or for him to decide to leave his girlfriend. I think you simply have to accept it's over.