Is the advice of women to guy to ';be yourself'; misguided in some ways?

Considering that a woman has a far greater chance of finding a mate being herself (say shy and quiet) then a man with the same characteristics? Isn't it more true that women as a whole look for some general characteristics that if a man does not possess naturally, will severely hinder him in dating, unless he ';becomes something he's not?';Is the advice of women to guy to ';be yourself'; misguided in some ways?
I have never read anything so right-on!Is the advice of women to guy to ';be yourself'; misguided in some ways?
Absolutely. The simple advice ';just be yourself'; is misguided to just about anyone - it's an eloquent way of advising someone to stagnate and reject all ideas of self-improvement.





Generally, telling someone to 'be themselves' is advising them not to socially experiment in certain situations - which can sometimes be good advice (pretend to be more outgoing than you're really comfortable with at a bar, for instance, and you might end up with someone who likes who you pretended to be one night more than who you are).





But generally speaking, being content with oneself and expecting others to adjust to one's flaws is bad long-term advice.
no i disagree. there is somebody for everybody. for both genders, the shy and quiet people have a harder time finding someone because they dont open up enough for people to get to know them. you just think that women have it easier because you are a guy and you can find shy/quiet women cute. well im a girl and i think shy and quiet guys are cute too:) being yourself is just that and someone will find that special.
it depends on if the person in question is looking for a long term relationship or not,if there just looking for a one night stand ';be yourself'; might not matter,in regards to a long term relationship however ';be yourself'; is a must considering it's a waste of time pretending your something your not for a lifetime
I have never taken advice from a woman about women. She will often tell you what she wants, not what most women want. In my experience, women desire different things at different stages in their life from a man. Her advice was misguided to say the least.
it's misguided in every way possible.





you want to get with the hot ladies? never listen to them. never look at them as human beings. just look at them as your play toys. i guar-ron-tee you that the ';nice guys'; NEVER get the good quality poosile.
31 years of being myself left me single.
totally..